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7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?
My friends encouraging me to buy statement coats or pants in high school was super influential - just the "I can't pull this off"/ "No, you're who CAN pull it off!" conversation. I'm still fascinated when clothing is "wearing" its person, and the line between those things, which is much more apparent when people aren't feeling confident. It's also fascinating that you don't appear to others as you appear to yourself. Putting energy into dressing most often has to do with how much energy I feel. Another one of my friends encouraged me in word and deed to embrace single statement pieces, outrageous or more ordinary, which is the way I sort of tend anyway, so I loved that a lot. It's not a conversation but I loved when I discovered White Lightning's blog back in 2010 or so. I loved some of her outfits but most of all her complete narrative, her complete cohesion of non-cohesive things, and turning ordinary things unusual. A visionary dresser.
With mu husband, when he convinced me that i had no trouble wearing smaller skirts, dresses or even a bikini.
Im not sure if this counts as a conversation.. my mum's dressing rules are very memorable. Once we were five we could choose our own outfits so long as we didnt match busy with busy (two patterned items together).
I still stick to this rule as well as no tight with tight or baggy with baggy.
The conversation was with my best friend Cate. She had come home from a year over seas as a humanitarian worker / missionary and she had no time to worry about what to wear or how she looked and this was really hard on her. But she learned how to not care. And she taught me not to care either. I used to care so much and I still do most of the time but she taught me that it's okay to dress what we call "bummy" and to just to wear what feels beautiful to you. - What ever feels comfortable and beautiful to you thats what you should wear, that's what I learned from Cate and I have found this way of being really freeing and beautiful.
A course by MOMA called fashion as design opened my mind to the numerous angles on fashion regarding, race, shape, history, violence etc
I started asking - and listening - to my boyfriend's opinions and compliments about what he thinks looks good on me. He has a knack for discerning not only what looks like 'me' but also what brings out my natural beauty.
I was chatting with my mom about how some people honest to goodness just wear their hearts in their sleeves, and how others hide behind their clothes. I’m the former, and she is most definitely the latter. I came up with my clothing mantra, I suppose: dress to express.
It was the one I had with myself while I was decluttering my wardrobe. I definitely figured out that I had a distinct style from the consistency and composition of my unworn clothes.
striped colored socks from H&M. Color pop coming from the sock is 👌🏽
Probably the aforementioned one with my friend in high school. Maybe some with my twin sister as well, but nothing specific really comes to mind. Once she told me I looked like a garden gnome in my doofy shoes, but I laughed and still wore them, so not much came from that. Also I got a free wallet with those shoes, so they were like pretty lucky.
See above at 4.
I thought everyone cared about how they looked liked and dressed until I asked one of my friends why they put no effort in how they look- clothes, hair and makeup. They said it's because they don't believe n outward appearances coming before the inner person. I don't believe this to be true and it bugs me that they think that way
I can't name a specific conversation, but any time I got to talk to my friend/mentor who is a stylist in LA. She really encouraged me to be what I want and let what I wear be a reflection of that.
when i was on the internet looking at clothes i like with my friends
I chat a little bit with sales man about the quality of the clothes.
I have had lots of conversations about my personal style, and which fashion senses fit different personalities. These kinds of questions are always so interesting for me.
I have never engaged in such a conversation. I do, however, steer clear of women who dress as if they are millionaires (e.g., over-dressed), are dressed for the corporate workplace (i.e., stiff & stifled), or those who dress in a thrown together frumpy outfit.
My friends confronted me and helped me see that I need to be strong and look nice
I'm not sure.
i should try to dress life a girl ...
not look dumb ...
and maybe to look like i'm going to a party and not to some sports competition.
i listened to an episode of this american life featuring lindy west and i believe another writer who were talking about women and weight and bodies. and i think it was lindy's piece where she just was like, you know what? I'm allowed to take up space.
Onlne with women of size
I've never had that kind of conversation...
Not a conversation... But I respect women who wear anything they like and don't bother to think too much if the clothes actually look good on them.
I haven't had that conversation yet, but I'm looking forward to it.
I think with my aunt at 16 perhaps, when I was starting to rebel against the convent school uniform style of dressing - not the school uniform, but that we all looked exactly the same. I didn't need skinny jeans and boots in Delhi summers, I wanted - of course, cotton floaty dresses and muslin tunics. I had the luxury of a massive amazing closet and learnt early about custom tailoring and alterations.. With her - discussing what I like, what suits me and why I don't have to dress exactly like my best friends - these principles are still things I live by.
I havent had one yet
With Theresa (good friend) about dressing as a director's assistant
There have been a few. I think just not giving a shit about visible panty lines, wearing whatever colors and patterns you want together is liberating and any restraint on that mixing is stupid, and having an outfit fit a mood "So fall!" "Madeline realness," "Very Lolita," have been some of them.