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7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?

I think it was with my mother when she said that I shoudl wear mini skirts. She said I had legs, so I should show them off because there are people with far worse legs out there (regardless of my own personal issues with my body), and they have no shame in showing them off.

I haven't so far...

Never been transformed by a style/fashion conversation.

Probably the conversation, at my interview, that took me from studying history to footwear design.

I'm often asked to help my family members clean out their wardrobes. It's so cathartic & cleansing when they let go of clothes that no longer work for them & then see them get excited by the possibilities of what's left to wear.

Defending (and believing) myself when I defied the trendy girls. Too damn bad they didn't approve.

Probably a conversation about why we fashion blog with Joelle from La Petite Noob.

I've never had one.

With my friend Libertad (, about fashion freedom, and how it can show your personality.

I have gray hair, sort of thin & limp, that goes to the small of my back. I always, always wear it in a braid.

I hear constantly at work "You should cut [dye/style] your hair. It would look so great short." I keep hearing that message loud & clear, and it made me feel defensive.

Then one day someone passing on the street said "I like your braid". I suddenly realized how often I hear that, too, but that message was never getting through.

From that moment, I stopped being defensive about anything about my appearance. My style (and often lack thereof) is my choice, and it's my choice to feel good or bad about, but no one else's.

I don't know


How much young girls rely on labels for fashion and identity instead what fashion really is, being able to spot a cheap piece and making it look like a million bucks. Young women don't realize youth and a radiant personality stand out more than. The expense outfit.

Can't remember any.

I remember driving up into the hills once with a friend I had known since elementary school, though never all that well, someone who was so intelligent and so articulate and had always done so well in school, was always seen as a perfect guy, and at this time, in high school, he was changing a little, he was just a little less clean-cut and a little more scruffy and dreamy-eyed and it was like the perfect-seeming self so many people had been seeing was getting more complex. People were wondering about him, like, what's going on with him? And I had started to have a crush on him. Anyway, we drove out to these huge windmills and parked and sat at the base of one and just talked and talked, talked about anything really thoughtfully and it was great, and I remember him saying why can't people just wear what they want? What would the world be like if people just wore the things they liked, and it didn't matter if you were male and the things you liked were skirts or flowers or whatever, if there were just no cut-and-dry expectations for what people of each gender were to wear. If people just decided, I like this, I'm drawn to this, and so this is what I'm going to wear. And I didn't get the impression it was like this simple situation where he was like wanting to wear skirts and so he was thinking how unjust it was that he was expected not to, I mean I didn't even get the impression he wanted to wear skirts at all, although I could have been wrong. It just seemed like he was questioning things, questioning why anyone has to be afraid to present themselves in any particular way at all. Because people can't. Without being hated, and feared, and harassed, and abused. It's so absurd, and it's so real. Anyway, at that time that wasn't really something I had thought about, and I really admired everything about what he was saying and how he was saying it. I still think about that sometimes.

Someone told me about the Dressing Your Truth book by Carol Tuttle. In this conversation my friend said "it's not about right or wrong colors, but it's about what vibrates with you. What makes you feel balanced and comfortable in the clothes you choose." I think of that comment at least once a week while I'm trying to figure out what to wear.

None. I don't really talk about fashion or style much.

This one

i dont converse on people about fashion :p but i read online articles :)

When I was finally and thankfully convinced that leggings and ESPECIALLY jeggings are a no go area.

A college roommate spent years trying to help me understand that wearing cheap clothing wouldn't look that good on me. But then she made me try on a pair of Seven for All Mankind jeans and explained how they made my butt look amazing. It blew me away.

With my male art director partner. Realizing that all the fashion talismans of my youth were not just the fever dreams of a young girl, but legitimate expressions of creativity and ambition. My fashion ideas as a kid would lead me to the path I have now.

I honestly don't know.

A conversation with my best friend, who explained that people treat her differently when she dresses in a masculine way.

with my mum about what suited my body better

Haven't had it.

I don't know that I've ever had one!

it was a series of conversations during the year i spent sharing a flat with the most well dressed person i will ever know. She has this sort of freakish eye for how to put things together, and for proportions and silhouettes. It did actually feel spooky how good she was at it, like she had an extra sense. I learned just about everything from that.

I don't think I've ever had a transformative conversation on style. I did once see an advert that made me decide to only wear bold lipstick because I think it's a powerful thing for a women to do. It made me think they had it right with the power dressing they did in the 80's so that was transformative, but I only talked to myself about it.

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