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Femmeke R

1. When do you feel at your most attractive?

There's two types of being attractive. The sexual attractiveness and the personalitybased attractiveness.

Whenever I go on a date and I want the guy to be attracted to my personality I wear extremely simple clothing. My favorite sneakers, jeans and a shirt/pullover, all without a print and in the same lightblue colour. The colour works terrific for my blue eyes and light skin, and because the outfit is so boring all the attention is drawn to my face (and maybe hair). This makes me feel attractive because I feel extremely comfortable in these clothes and at the same time I can proactively choose wether or not to use my eyes and hair to impress. Instead of passively being a butt/leg/boobs object of admiration.

When I want to be attractive in a sexual way the old recipe of heels/blackpantyhose/shortskirtorjeans/redlipstick always does the job.

2. Do you notice women on the street? If so, what sort of women do you tend to notice or admire?

Women and men, I admire clothing in general, not only womens clothing.

My main hobby in watching clothing is I guess studying subcultures. I like to find patterns in how different types of students, different types of businessmen, different types of rich mothers, different types of marroccan guys dress.

3. What are some things you admire about how other women present themselves?

I don't really admire special types of presentation. I enjoy the view of a wellchosen outfit, but I don't care what kínd of outfit that is. Ah well, there is one friend of mine who wears the most amazing outfits, she is soo creative and always has a whole atmosphere catched in an outfit. She looks like a hobo, or a punk, or a YUP, or a dancer, or a cowgirl. I love that, because in that way you can be anyone you want to be without really being it. If you know what I mean. You don't have to choose.

4. Was there a moment in your life when something “clicked” for you about fashion or dressing or make-up or hair? What? Why did it happen then, do you think?

Yep. When I was sixteen and a bit in a mild teenage depression I discovered that wearing colourful kneehigh socks made me happy. So I started making my outfits be bursting of colour. Recently I discovered that colour also makes hiding in public quite difficult. So now the colourfullness of my outfit depends on how extravert I feel.

5. What are some shopping rules you wouldn’t necessarily recommend to others but which you follow?

All the rules I follow I'd recommend others, of cóurse!

They are:
- Only buy clothing that needs to fit perfectly or needs to be hygienic NEW. for example jeans, underwear or basic tshirts. Buy rest of clothing in (online) thriftshops. Buying one new cotton shirt is helping an african get rid of his drinkingwater for more than a month.
- Mainly buy clothing in colours that suit your skintone (seasoncolourtypethingies).
- In thriftshops go for quality fabrics like wool or linen.
- don't buy stuff youre not gonna wear

7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?

Fashion is not that important to have transformative conversations about it.

9. Are there any clothing (or related) items that you have in multiple? Why do you think you keep buying this thing?

Yep, blue (sweat)shirts. If I only had one I would wear it every day. By having a few I can still have the idea of wearing something different.

10. Have you ever successfully given someone a present of jewelry or clothing that you continue to feel good about?

Only once. A basic grey tanktop. So not really presentlike.

Oh wait, to the same girl I gave away one of my lipsticks, which I knew would look beautifull on her and not on me. It's her favorite lipstick.

By the way, both times it was about a piece that was not my colourtype. I'm spring and my friend is summer. The top was darkgrey and the lipstick was darkpowderpink.

11. Is there any fashion trend you’ve refused to participate in and why? 

pointy shoes. About seven/eight years ago everyone was wearing pointy shoes/boots. Horrible. I still wonder if it was actually a fashiontrend or just a big communal mistake.

19. What are you wearing on your body and face, and how is your hair done, right at this moment?

converse allstars, grey
ligtblue jeans, H&M
lichtblue sweater, H&M
shawl that was nearest to me while i was sitting at the computer and started feeling cold. It's blue but doesn't match my outfit.
Blue scarve/bandana in my hair because hair needs to be washed and is sitting in an ugly messy bun.

only daycream, as usual.
no jewelry, as usual

20. In what way is this stuff important, if at all?

It's important in a way that it is nice when the world is beautiful. So if you feel like making the world a bit more beautiful, wear nice clothes every now and then.

Other than that it is not important AT ALL. Clothing is a hobby of mine, but everyone who has different hobbies: go for it.

21. With whom do you talk about clothes?


22. How do institutions affect the way you dress?

They don't.

23. Do you think you have taste or style? Which one is more important? What do these words mean to you?

I know what the rules of style are and how to apply them, but I don't care for them. A lot of time I wear stuff that I knów is not obeying the rules of fashion. Sometimes to deliberately annoy people for whom these rules are holy, most of the time because I feel like it.

Anyway, since I'm part of the culture and culturesensitive or something I usually intrinsically like the stuff that is fashionable.

26. Do you have style in any areas of your life aside from fashion?

Of course. Housedecoration, gardening, giftwrapping, writing, everything that needs creativity.

27. Can you recall some times when you have dressed a particular way to calm yourself or gain a sense of control over a situation that scared you?

Yep. Already listed two event in earlier replies but one extra:

I borrowed a book from someone on facebook. I went to bring the book back and apparently the girl I lent it from and her housemates were having a party. The girl and a friend were dressed up as the spicegirls with wigs and everything, trying to add some spice to the otherwise boring party (according to them). We started talking, and at last she invited me to join the party where I knew not a single person (not even her). I felt like partying but was a bit scared, so I also put a giant wig on my head under which I covered my hair.

This felt safe because the people at the party wouldn't get to know me, they would get to know the grey haired wig girl. It was also lowering barriers for other people to talk to me, because I was looking ridiculous and not at all threatening.

38. What are you trying to achieve when you dress?

Feeling warm.

41. What would you say is “you” and what would you say is “not you”?

me: baggy skinnyjeans

not me: clothing with stuff on it. shiny things, prints, strings, little balls, glitter and ornament

44. What sorts of things do you do, clothing, make-up or hair-wise, to feel professional?

I really fail at feeling professional. I try hard, really I do, but it just doesn't work. I always end up looking like me instead of some professional person.

Perhaps it is because I don't like clothing that is tight around the butt. And most professional clothing for women ís tight exactly there.

50. Do you ever wish you were a man or could dress like a man or had a man’s body? Was there ever a time in the past?

Yesss. I love square shapes. And women have round shapes. I always try to still wear squareshaped clothing but being a man would make that soooooooo much easier and squarier.

51. If there was one country or culture or era that you had to live in, fashion-wise, what would it be?

The thing is, I don't want to choose. I want to live in all those era's. If I have a clothingphilosophy, that might be it. And actually, thís area is perfect for it, because it is now totally accepted to dress in different styles.

54. Are there any figures from culture, past or present, whose style you admire or have drawn from?

- all the characters in the series 'Suits'
- characters in 'dr quinn' and 'little house on the prairy'
- characters in 'pride and prejudice'
- photo's in my historyschoolbook of the punkers crashing the berlin wall
- vivienne westwood
- english schoolkids I saw in movies or in real life when I was visiting England
- characters on the pictures of the old Dutch books I read when I was young. Books from beginning of twentieth century about poor farmerboys wearing those amazing woolen or flanel shirts and shorts and woolen kneehigh socks and suspenders.

61. What are some things you need to do to your body or clothes in order to feel presentable?

Shower, brush my teeth and put on deodorant.

62. How does makeup fit into all this for you?

Make up is annoying. It takes time and I always feel like rubbing it off, i can't get used to feeling the stuff sitting on my face.

Except for lipstick. Lipstick I love cause it brings colour to the world.

68. Is there an item of clothing that you once owned, but no longer own, and still think about or wish you had back? What was it, what happened to it, and why do you want it back?

It is my vikingring. I was hitchhiking through eastern europe and got in the car of a guy who did metaldetecting as a hobby. He searched with this beepingthing for ancient coins and jewelry. In the car he pointed to a little black box on the dashboard and asked me to open it. In it were a few of his found treasures, coins and a ring. I put the ring on my finger, it was pitchblack because it was so dirty, but it fitted. He told me it was a 1000 year old ring he found in Estonia that once belonged to a Viking woman. I could keep it, but I had to soak it in mineral water first, because then the spirit of the previous owner would loosen from the ring, and the metal could get attached to my spirit.

While wearing it the dirt slowly rubbed off and the coppercolour reappeared. I never soaked it in mineral water and maybe that is the reason that it got lost someday.

I really really miss it since it was iconic for me. I never buy jewelry, the only jewelry I have is stuff that is been giving to me and thus has a story attached. This story grasps all of my personality, since it tells about adventure, my interest in interviewing people, my interest in religion and an ability to identify with a viking woman, strong and independent.

69. If you had to throw out all your clothes but keep one thing, what would you keep?

My mothers ownmade dress.

What’s your birth date? 
Where were you born and where do you live now?

17 april 1989

I was born in the Netherlands and still live there.

What kind of work do you do?

I study for being a religion teacher and want to become a journalist.

Are you single, married, do you have kids, etc.?


Please say anything you like about yourself that might put this survey into some sort of context.

A friend of mine who cares a lot about clothing sent a picture of the book to me. I filled this in because I wanted to express how I feel about clothing, since I have to interact with this opinionated friend.

How do you feel after filling out this survey?

A bit tired ;)

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