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1. When do you feel at your most attractive?
I feel at my most attractive when I have exercised and stretched and know I am taking good care of my body. I am eating well, drinking enough water and listening to my body. I also feel most beautiful when I am on top of my beauty routine. Furthermore, when I don't worry about what to wear and seem to know intuitively what to wear and really like what I am wearing that day.
2. Do you notice women on the street? If so, what sort of women do you tend to notice or admire?
Unfortunately, I live in a small town without a lot of humans who I am drawn to but I feel like when it has happened I am drawn to girls with simple beauty and a style similar to mine. Like maybe a blonde girl with natural hair and skin wearing some denim and high top chucks. If I saw someone like that I wouldn't be able to stop staring and I'd probably be secretly wishing to be her friend.
3. What are some things you admire about how other women present themselves?
I admire when women are kind and smile and don't look down when they walk. Women who don't seem anxious or mad to be there but calm and happy to be there, to be alive. But not like annoyingly happy to be there but simply just content to be there. I also admire when women look clean and like they care to be alive and put effort into what they wear while still sticking to their own personal style. That seems really effortless and beautiful to me.
4. Was there a moment in your life when something “clicked” for you about fashion or dressing or make-up or hair? What? Why did it happen then, do you think?
I feel like there has been several moments that have happened regarding different aspects say for instance hair or clothes, but they have seemed to bring the same message. I remember realizing wow I can put coconut oil on my face and chapstick on my lips and feel absolutely beautiful. I realized this also with having my hair long, natural and in a middle part. I realized this even more with what I wear. I used to care so much how I looked, was it acceptable? I have social anxiety so this plays into it, but I realized I can wear things that make me smile, even if they aren't the norm, and still be beautiful. I can be beautiful by simply feeling beautiful to myself and natural beauty does this for me. Denim, which I LOVE, even seems so natural to me, so simple. Furthermore, I think it happened when it did because maybe we all go through this effect of choosing what feels right to us rather than what we think others would choose. Like we all find our personal style and go back to that little girl who wore high top chucks, well because she was just excited and happy to wear high top chucks; who cared what Pam or Bobby thought/thinks.
5. What are some shopping rules you wouldn’t necessarily recommend to others but which you follow?
I can't say I have any... I am very conscious about what I buy and I have a rule that I only buy second hand or I make the clothes myself. I feel like more girls should do this because thrift store shopping is like finding hidden treasures, the things you find can excite you and inspire you. The pieces are also unique and older clothing is made so much better than new clothing, usually and in my price range anyway. There is also self sufficiency in altering found thrift store treasures or making your own treasures. It shapes your personal style even more. The only thing I seem to budge on buying new is undies and socks haha
6. What are some rules about dressing you follow, but you wouldn't necessarily recommend to others?
I don't feel like I am as conscious about what I wear sometimes. I am a feeling based person so I usually base things on how I am feeling that day. This way of working sometimes yields not such aesthetic results or somedays I have no clue how I feel and this creates stress and indecision. Maybe not choosing clothes based on feeling? Maybe finding a better way to choose what to wear?
7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?
The conversation was with my best friend Cate. She had come home from a year over seas as a humanitarian worker / missionary and she had no time to worry about what to wear or how she looked and this was really hard on her. But she learned how to not care. And she taught me not to care either. I used to care so much and I still do most of the time but she taught me that it's okay to dress what we call "bummy" and to just to wear what feels beautiful to you. - What ever feels comfortable and beautiful to you thats what you should wear, that's what I learned from Cate and I have found this way of being really freeing and beautiful.
8. Do you have a unified way of approaching your life, work, relationships, finances, chores, etc.? Please explain.
Not at all. Is this a terrible thing?
9. Are there any clothing (or related) items that you have in multiple? Why do you think you keep buying this thing?
YES haha! I have reverted back to my inner childhood girl and I have a handful of white Hanes bikini undies and a handful of black Amazon bikini undies, in other words granny panties but I feel so comfortable and so beautiful in them. I feel natural and free and simple. I seem to feel in a way like Cameron Diaz in Charles Angels when she is dancing to music in her boy undies. I am learning to own up to how I feel beautiful and not how the pressure from "society" (goodness I hate that word) makes me feel like I should feel beautiful aka undies made from lace and some weird a** materials. Cotton granny panties all the way baby.
10. Have you ever successfully given someone a present of jewelry or clothing that you continue to feel good about?
Unfortunately, no not yet. But in the future yes.
11. Is there any fashion trend you’ve refused to participate in and why?
I feel like there has been so many. I have a bitter taste in my mouth for fashion trends because I feel like they are chosen by someone and that person is a human being just like me, why do they decide what is beautiful and "in" and what isn't? However, there have been fashion trends that I have worn and simply because I found beauty in them. I think the most recent fashion trend I have refused to follow are graphic tees that just say the dumbest things on them. Like cute little sayings that have absolutely no depth to them. Also the sexy underwear trend, Im not on that one either.
12. Can you say a bit about how your mother’s body and style has been passed down to you, or not?
Neither have been haha. My mothers style is hilarious to me. Its like direction, she has no sense of it. I think it may be a lack of attention to detail but I am constantly having to help her and guide her away from certain outfit choices. I have also been given my dads body so also no relation there. However, the interesting thing to me is that my grandmothers style, my mothers mom, is very similar to mine. We seem to share the same idea of clothing as treasures and our color schemes seem to be very similar, so thankfully I have been passed down some of her pieces.
13. Have you stolen, borrowed or adapted any dressing ideas or actual items from friends or family?
I have a few pieces of my grandmothers and nana's jewelry and I wear them daily and love them. I have also stolen some of my dads denim pants and jackets. He always adds too much bleach to his laundry loads so his denim is beautifully distressed and bleached. Now that I think about it these pieces and aspects have defiantly shaped my style and the pieces that I find beautiful. WOW.
14. Was there a point in your life when your style changed dramatically? What happened?
Yes, after I finished college. I got diagnosed with Lupus, went through my first love break up and came off of the anxiety medicine I had been on since I was in 8th grade. These things exposed my roots and the fake tree I had seemed to be living as. I didn't know at the time it was ungenuine, I was very asleep. But certain things wake you and make you really dip deep and my style was one of those things I started seeing depth in. I feel like if my ex saw me now he'd say "you have changed so much" but I think its beautiful, to change and grow. But at the same time I feel more than ever like the little girl Ive always been. I am still the blonde girl who loves Chuck Taylors, music and playing outside.
15. Is there anything political about the way you dress?
Sometimes I like to wear my "March for our Lives" tee shirt but that is about the only political thing I wear. I get nervous wearing it sometimes because I live in a very conservative part of Florida and I am always worried some mean and angry person is going to be mean and angry to me because of my shirt. But mostly I smile and think of the amazing kids who are a part of this movement and I am glad to be a part of it and to support it in the way that I can.
16. Please describe your body.
This one is hard. Short. 5' 3. I have a small frame but I gain weight easily. My weight fluctuates a lot. I have a lame posture genetically but I work on it. I have natural blonde hair. Freckles. Tan skin in the summer, but not too tan (I think I am German). I have decent size boobs.. haha. I think I am hour glass shape? I have a red birthmark in the shape of a sideways heart on my left cheek and it goes down onto my neck and even my tongue and left ear. I think thats it.
17. Please describe your mind.
Constantly going. I am always thinking of ideas, day dreams, dreams, plans, etccc. I am trying to learn how to get my mind to work with and for me rather than against me so much. My mind is very active and creative. Lots of connections going on and lots of dreaming.
18. Please describe your emotions.
Deep. I am a very deep feeler and it seems I am what they call an empath. Sometimes this is challenging and sometimes I don't want to feel anything at all. I try to have them working and in order, I value emotional intelligence, probably because my emotions can be such a mess. But at the end of the day I am thankful for them. To feel is to be alive right?
19. What are you wearing on your body and face, and how is your hair done, right at this moment?
Soft black leggings, an oversized comfy pastel purple cotton tee shirt, a black sports bra, my hair is in a rolled up top bun and I have coconut oil on my face (I just did a homemade facial mask).
20. In what way is this stuff important, if at all?
Important because its comfy and functional. Unimportant because I don't really like what I am wearing. Its not what I feel is my "style" but it is what I have and it works.