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1. When do you feel at your most attractive?
When I have been regularly active for a long period of time, running, riding my bicycle, doing yoga, dancing.
2. Do you notice women on the street? If so, what sort of women do you tend to notice or admire?
Women who smile at other people, who clearly welcome contact with others.
3. What are some things you admire about how other women present themselves?
Originality. Women who embrace what they were clearly born with and work with it.
4. Was there a moment in your life when something “clicked” for you about fashion or dressing or make-up or hair? What? Why did it happen then, do you think?
When I was isolated from the opinions of others and could hear my own style voice speaking.
5. What are some shopping rules you wouldn’t necessarily recommend to others but which you follow?
Going shopping when you are seeking to fill a void.
6. What are some rules about dressing you follow, but you wouldn't necessarily recommend to others?
Never go out the door without looking your best . . . it can be paralyzing to mind, body and soul.
7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?
There were many, mostly in college, with women on completely opposite sides of the modesty spectrum.
8. Do you have a unified way of approaching your life, work, relationships, finances, chores, etc.? Please explain.
I try to approach everything with joy, even though I am not consistent in the way I tackle any given task.
9. Are there any clothing (or related) items that you have in multiple? Why do you think you keep buying this thing?
Denim, denim, denim. It has gotten more beautiful and more sustainably created than ever before.
10. Have you ever successfully given someone a present of jewelry or clothing that you continue to feel good about?
My niece welcomes anything I give her, from hand-me-downs to brand-new pieces. She is still developing her own style sense, and I think she welcomes the inspiration.
11. Is there any fashion trend you’ve refused to participate in and why?
Fur, baby, fur! So many equally warm options available. Why participate in an industry built on killing and skinning one of God's creatures?!
12. Can you say a bit about how your mother’s body and style has been passed down to you, or not?
My mom had such a difficult childhood, growing up with a single mother who resented every minute of her life as a widow, that she has never had any confidence in her own style. Additionally, our body types are diametrically opposed. I am not even sure which of my relatives passed down the genes contributing to my small frame.
13. Have you stolen, borrowed or adapted any dressing ideas or actual items from friends or family?
No. I have always wanted to be my own person, in body, mind and spirit . . . clothing included.
14. Was there a point in your life when your style changed dramatically? What happened?
No, I have basically stayed true to be desire to be feminine in every way, every day.
15. Is there anything political about the way you dress?
Only when a presidential election season is upon us, and then, yes, I will demonstrate support for my candidate by wearing a lapel pin.
16. Please describe your body.
17. Please describe your mind.
In a million places all of the time, primarily tuned into the thoughts and feelings and traumas of others.
18. Please describe your emotions.
I am a Pisces. I experience every conceivable human emotion -- at least for a few seconds -- every day.
19. What are you wearing on your body and face, and how is your hair done, right at this moment?
Casual, no makeup, no jewelry, hair just washed. We are still in quarantine for the most part and I do yoga in brief intervals all day every day. I like to be ready whenever the spirit moves me.
20. In what way is this stuff important, if at all?
I believe that clothing helps us define ourselves, especially those of us who are extraordinarily sensitive to the outside world. It provides, not armor necessarily, but definition and distinction.
21. With whom do you talk about clothes?
Anyone who was interested in talking with me about the topic.
22. How do institutions affect the way you dress?
Only in so much as I am proud of the schools I have attended and, occasionally, I like to show my support.
23. Do you think you have taste or style? Which one is more important? What do these words mean to you?
I think taste and style are nearly synonymous, but that taste applies more broadly to intangible things, such as the way we represent ourselves when we speak or write or interact.
24. Do you remember the biggest waste of money you ever made on an item of clothing?
Cheap winter boots. I won't mention the brand. But you cannot scrimp on boots when you live in the Northeastern area of the United States.
25. Are there any dressing tricks you’ve invented or learned that make you feel like you’re getting away with something?
Being small-busted, any bra that gives me a bit more shape and volume.
26. Do you have style in any areas of your life aside from fashion?
I have style opinions in every physical aspect of my life, up to and including the books I read.
27. Can you recall some times when you have dressed a particular way to calm yourself or gain a sense of control over a situation that scared you?
Absolutely, dressing as conservatively as possible whenever I go on an interview.
28. Would you say you “know what you like” in the area of fashion and clothing? If so, do you also know what you like in other areas of life, that is, are you generally good at discernment? Can you say where your discernment comes from, if you have it? Or if you don’t have it, why or why not?
Yes, but I embrace a lot of different forms of fashion, film, art, theatre, design, dance, home decor and transportation that I believe my discernment is incredibly eclectic and stems from a love of color and enthusiastic displays of life, love and interrelationships.
29. Did your parents teach you things about clothing, care for your clothing, dressing or style? What lessons do you remember? Or did you just pick things up?
My mom taught me everything I know about caring for clothing but nothing about style.
30. What sorts of things do you do, clothing or make-up or hair- wise, to feel sexy or alluring?
My curly red hair has always been the most notable thing about me, but nothing beats a smile to make a connection with another person.
31. Many people say they want to feel “comfortable,” or that they admire people who seem “confident.” What do these words really mean to you?
Comfortable and confident seem intertwined to me. If you are comfortable in your own skin -- no matter what you are wearing -- you are confident in yourself, regardless of the circumstances.
32. If dressing were the only thing you did, and you were considered an expert and asked to explain your style philosophy, what would you say?
Wear what you love!
33. What is really beautiful, for you, in general?
Someone who is happy, regardless of what kind of live they are currently living.
34. What do you consider very ugly?
Nothing is uglier than hate, hate speech and/or hateful actions.
35. Are you generally a good judge of whether what you buy will end up being worn? Have you figured out how to know in advance?
Absolutely. Color is always my guide.
36. When you look at yourself before going out, and you are trying to see yourself from the outside, can you describe a bit about what this “other person” is like? What do they like, dislike, what sorts of judgments do they have? Is this “outer eye” based on someone you know or once knew?
I have no clue. I only know how I see myself. The rest is a mystery . . . which is quite fun, most of the time.
37. What is your process getting dressed in the morning? What are you considering?
Where I will be going, what will I be doing, who will I be seeing, how many more times will I need to change.
38. What are you trying to achieve when you dress?
An outward expression of my inner being.
39. What, for you, is the difference between dressing and dressing up?
Dressing is simply putting something on . . . dressing up is making an effort to make it look stunning.
40. If you had to wear a “uniform” what would it look like?
Oh, hands down, Audrey Hepburn's black turtleneck, black pants and black flats in "Funny Girl."
41. What would you say is “you” and what would you say is “not you”?
I appreciate authenticity, meaning not wearing anything that is too tight, too short or too revealing.
42. What is your cultural background and how has that influenced how you dress?
I am English/Irish/Scottish/Welsh And this becomes quite apparent when the weather starts to get chilly, because my wardrobe will be drawn entirely from my stockpile of thigh-length Irish fisherman knit sweaters.
43. Do you remember a time in your life when you dressed quite differently from how you do now? Can you describe it and what it was all about for you?
Oh, Lord. Middle School. I was quite confused, had no guidance and only saw other people rather than myself.
44. What sorts of things do you do, clothing, make-up or hair-wise, to feel professional?
Minimal make-up, but definitely concealer, hair tied back (or down), and a suit or dress.
45. How do you conform to or rebel against the dress expectations at your workplace?
My workplace is currently my home so I can basically wear whatever I want every day.
46. Do you have a dress code, a school uniform, or a uniform that you wear for an extracurricular activity?
My only uniform is for an athletic activity: leggings and a top that breathes.
47. Are there ways in which you conform to or rebel against these uniforms?
48. Do you find it comforting or constraining to have a uniform?
I have never worked in a place that required one.
49. What is an archetypal outfit for you; one that you could have happily worn at any point in your life? What do you like about it?
A suit --- altered a bit -- that my mom handed down to me and never goes out of style.
50. Do you ever wish you were a man or could dress like a man or had a man’s body? Was there ever a time in the past?
No. But I understand that some do.
51. If there was one country or culture or era that you had to live in, fashion-wise, what would it be?
I would be a flapper in the 1920s. No question.
52. Do you consider yourself photogenic?
53. When you see yourself in photographs, what do you think?
54. Are there any figures from culture, past or present, whose style you admire or have drawn from?
Madonna (very slightly), Jackie O (much more obviously), Kate Bosworth (everything!)
55. Have you ever had a dream that involved clothes?
Not that i can recall.
56. What would be a difficult or uncomfortable look for you to try and achieve?
Anything meant to be wildly sexy or provocative.
57. If you were totally comfortable with your body, or your body was a bit closer to what you wish it was like, what would you wear?
I would wear more comfortable workout clothing.
58. Is there anyone that you are trying to attract or repel when you dress?
No. I actually do dress for myself.
59. Are there any dressing rules you’d want to convey to other women?
Be true to you!
60. What do you think of perfume? Do you wear it?
I love perfume and wear it every day.
61. What are some things you need to do to your body or clothes in order to feel presentable?
Take a shower!
62. How does makeup fit into all this for you?
I do not wear a lot of makeup but I do like to enhance my eyes with mascara.
63. Is there a certain look you feel you’re expected to like that you have absolutely no interest in? What is it? Why aren’t you interested?
No. Peer pressure is long behind me.
64. Can you describe in a basic way what you own, clothing and jewelry-wise?
Primarily, things that I have loved and inherited over the years with a few blouses and dresses and workout clothing sprinkled in here and there.
65. What is your favorite piece of clothing or jewelry that you own?
My long strand of pearls.
66. Tell us about something in your closet that you keep but never wear. What is it, why don’t you wear it, and why do you keep it?
As of now, a top that I purchased before I had to stop running to take care of my Dad when he became seriously ill.
What’s your birth date? Where were you born and where do you live now?
What kind of work do you do?
Are you single, married, do you have kids, etc.?
Please say anything you like about yourself that might put this survey into some sort of context.
Style follower, not style slave.
How do you feel after filling out this survey?
It was fun but a little too long.