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1. When do you feel at your most attractive?
When I've had a glass of wine.
2. Do you notice women on the street? If so, what sort of women do you tend to notice or admire?
Women with French style. They always have some small element on them that is perfect. And they're nonchalant about it.
3. What are some things you admire about how other women present themselves?
I like women who are dressed with confidence, often with clear strong colours and definite lines. The great journalist Caitlin Moran hands out cards saying something like “I love your look.” I just say loudly, “I love your dress.” “I love that ring.” It’s not true that when a woman looks you up and down she’s being sneering. That woman is admiring you. She wants to steal your look. Go ahead, steal my look. You have my blessing.
4. Was there a moment in your life when something “clicked” for you about fashion or dressing or make-up or hair? What? Why did it happen then, do you think?
I was a child. We were on the subway in Montreal and I saw a beautiful black-haired young woman with perfect skin. She was wearing a red skirt with large white polka-dots and she was biting into a pistachio ice cream cone with her perfect large white teeth.
I was entranced by her beauty and city self. I stared in awe. One day I will move to the city and live in my own apartment and dress like her. To this day, I love polka dots and stripes. Who was that woman? I think of her a lot.
5. What are some shopping rules you wouldn’t necessarily recommend to others but which you follow?
I don't mix fabrics in one garment i.e., leather bits stuck in a wool coat. There's a lot of it about now.
I also don't like mixing different foods on a plate so maybe it's just a touch of food OCD transferred to clothes.
No capes. You don't want people to call you "Flaps."
6. What are some rules about dressing you follow, but you wouldn't necessarily recommend to others?
No low-rise or mid-rise jeans. Everyone bulges above them. I swear, a man who hated women came up with these and humiliated a generation of teenagers. No plaid. No backpacks (too easy to pickpocket). No hats.
8. Do you have a unified way of approaching your life, work, relationships, finances, chores, etc.? Please explain.
I get things done. I like clarity. I'm definite.
Clothes clean, work done on deadline, relationships few but warm, finances tracked, chores done.
9. Are there any clothing (or related) items that you have in multiple? Why do you think you keep buying this thing?
Shoes, yes, but also coats and purses. I think the coat is a coziness thing from living in the north when you had one coat and it was a serious beast. This is the only thing Zara (great prices) consistently does well. They have a coat fiend somewhere high up in the organization.
But the purse thing is weird. Druggies like to organize things, to keep their drugs inside things that are in other things. There's a passage in the bio of Edie Sedgwick that describes her unpacking her purse on a sidewalk. But my purse thing is some kind of security fetish, that if I were arrested or kidnapped I'd have everything I needed, the magic bag in Swiss Family Robinson. I hate signature purses. I want soft leather, a good lining, a central zippered compartment (for wallet and passport) and a broad strap so you don't get a dent in your shoulder. I have a dent in my shoulder. Only shoulder bags. Women need two hands. That Margaret Thatcher pursey thing was crazed.
And I buy a lot of oversized clothing, huge soft sweaters and big boyfriend blazers. Because I am short and slender, I like them flapping around in me. A cruel woman once said to me that I was “swimming” in my clothes. I still think of her. Fuck her.
10. Have you ever successfully given someone a present of jewelry or clothing that you continue to feel good about?
Presents are fraught. I delighted a daughter once with a purple Narciso Rodriguez dress that most humans couldn’t wear because it exposed so much skin. Only a young woman with a perfect body could wear it. To this day, it’s her favourite dress.
I see my daughters’ faces sink at Christmas when I get it wildly wrong (I usually don’t) and it makes me terribly sad. I apologize.
Yes, when my husband gets a gift right, as he did with a necklace one, I am overjoyed. I have been wearing it for 20 years. I think it was a sex anniversary gift (we celebrate that, but not the wedding).
I had a conversation with a woman last week who said Toronto was the unfriendliest city she has ever lived in. I agreed. No warmth, so unsociable. I was wearing these cool purple leather fingerless gloves (a boss who loved the colour purple was leaving so we all wore purple to her do) that I had thought my husband would find sexy but he laughed out loud. So I gave her the gloves and we're going to meet for dinner and drinks in November.
11. Is there any fashion trend you’ve refused to participate in and why?
No fake-fur gilets, Hello Kitty, nothing that is girly. Oh god, no to playsuits. They're for six-year-olds, tops.
12. Can you say a bit about how your mother’s body and style has been passed down to you, or not?
I have her hips. No hips.
I have her face. It's a bit Margaret Thatcher, unfortunately.
I would love to have wide hips and a huge ass, and a generous squashy face. No such luck.
15. Is there anything political about the way you dress?
I won't wear anything that is worn by hard-right political wives. Like those lurid Republican suits, or things that are chosen not to offend on the campaign trail. Oscar de la Renta screams Republican Wife, and he knows it, and it hurts. Good.
16. Please describe your body.
Small-boned, short, slender, sometimes worryingly so. Under stress I don't eat.
George Carlin got a whole comedy routine out of people like me. We are "assless." "Got no ass," he'd say in astonishment.
Women who complain about being overweight have no idea that being underweight brings a whole new set of problems. A tailbone needs protection. This is just a fact. Winter boots collapse without substantial calves to hold them up. Bony feet need really good quality shoes or you'll start hurting as soon as you leave the house.
I have "a nice rack." And again, accommodating it has been a life's work. Just finding a good bra, for example. It's hard work.
17. Please describe your mind.
Magpie mind, always flitting, can't settle.
18. Please describe your emotions.
I would rather not, thanks. Too private.
19. What are you wearing on your body and face, and how is your hair done, right at this moment?
Full makeup, a great teal sweatshirt from the boys’ department at Zara, a baby blue dickey from under the shirt, a Prabal Gurung skirt bought for $100 on sale, Ferragamo suede pumps in an irresistible teal shade called Petrolia. Dark stockings but not opaque. A Mondaine watch with a red strap. Shows time definitively, is from Swiss train platform clock.
My hair: good shampoo and conditioner, tamed with argan oil, blow-dried and flat-ironed. Obey, hair. You are my hatful of minions.
20. In what way is this stuff important, if at all?
It has aesthetic value, like the gable on a house or the stones in a set of steps, like a really great turquoise fence covered in purple clematis, which I have.
That side of the garden is a real success. Three more to go.
21. With whom do you talk about clothes?
I do not know any other human who is interested in clothes.
22. How do institutions affect the way you dress?
When you travel by air, you should always look plausible for airport cops. Seriously.
23. Do you think you have taste or style? Which one is more important? What do these words mean to you?
I have good taste in that I can pick out good single items. Style means putting them together right. I think I overdo it a bit--which I do see is a style--but it's not the style I'm really after.
24. Do you remember the biggest waste of money you ever made on an item of clothing?
Yes. I blew a grand on a dress with rainclouds all over it. Rainclouds with sequins for raindrops.
Now you tell me the appropriate place to wear that dress. I wore it to an atheist's conference as an ironic commentary on the heavens, but come on, I was really stretching the metaphor.
25. Are there any dressing tricks you’ve invented or learned that make you feel like you’re getting away with something?
Leg makeup. They sell it. It is hilarious.
26. Do you have style in any areas of your life aside from fashion?
Yes, the house is a bit eccentric. Very comfortable but vivid.
27. Can you recall some times when you have dressed a particular way to calm yourself or gain a sense of control over a situation that scared you?
I came back from Europe after working on a story about prostitution laws. I had talked to prostitutes in three countries and visited a huge brothel in Berlin where I was just appalled by the treatment of young Romanian village girls. I was really upset to see women, especially young ones, treated so cruelly--imagine having to fuck all day and night the kind of men who can't get women to have sex with them out of attraction or affection.
The minute I got back, I went online and bought this thick cream-coloured wool dress (L.K. Bennett, v. conservative) in a very heavy fabric. I had tried it on in Stockholm but they didn't have my size. The key was the lining which was so heavy and silky that it felt as though you were being secretly hugged by the dress. The dress is pure armour. I will wear it on days when I need defending. I don't care whether it looks dowdy or elegant. I don't care. It makes me feel impregnable.
I still dream about that huge Costco-like brothel and I get very upset remembering the young girls still living there, being entered when they don't want to be.
28. Would you say you “know what you like” in the area of fashion and clothing? If so, do you also know what you like in other areas of life, that is, are you generally good at discernment? Can you say where your discernment comes from, if you have it? Or if you don’t have it, why or why not?
I know precisely what I like. I am definite. I am emphatic.
You know who taught me that? Harriet the Spy. I read it when I was a kid. I am Harriet.
29. Did your parents teach you things about clothing, care for your clothing, dressing or style? What lessons do you remember? Or did you just pick things up?
You could not have found two people more indifferent to clothing.
30. What sorts of things do you do, clothing or make-up or hair- wise, to feel sexy or alluring?
I wash. Clean is really important. I especially like clean flat hair, tucked behind my ears with big blasting earrings. And I always push my sleeves up. I think forearms are beautiful. They're elegant but they get the work done.
Manicures are beautiful but incompatible with work. When I have a manicure I feel finished, by which I mean complete, which is excellent.
31. Many people say they want to feel “comfortable,” or that they admire people who seem “confident.” What do these words really mean to you?
It means baggy cropped beige pants, Lululemon jackets, short hair. It is middle-aged Normcore. Hate it. I know track shoes are comfortable. I have never owned a pair. I know that is very weird. Maybe I shouldn't even have told you that.
Confident just means confident. You are cheerful, strong, self-contained. I think they mean women who aren't worried about what other people are saying about their clothing. Take Christine Lagarde. She is herself.
32. If dressing were the only thing you did, and you were considered an expert and asked to explain your style philosophy, what would you say?
You have to find what looks right for you, what flatters your body and also makes you feel happy. Fashion is nothing. Fashion is a stupid tyranny.
Beauty comes from the inside. Find a smart woman to help you, maybe, a trusted friend.
I get so angry when I see women made miserable about their looks. You do not have to tolerate this misery. Consider the source, people.
33. What is really beautiful, for you, in general?
Women should end up feeling strong in their clothes and be able to laugh at them too, enjoy them and giggle at the whole process.
34. What do you consider very ugly?
Stiff fabrics that sit on the human body like playing cards taped together.
Jil Sander does this. Her shoes have hard little toes.
I really hate athletic gear, all those stripes and neon and glaring colours. I'm getting Adidas flashbacks. Sports clothes are lurid and make people identical. Lululemon is a fashion criminal.
35. Are you generally a good judge of whether what you buy will end up being worn? Have you figured out how to know in advance?
10% of everything I buy is a mistake. I think that's a very good result, really. You know when you press the Purchase Now button that it's wrong.
I hate returning things, because it's admitting to a mistake that I knew perfectly well that I shouldn't have made. It's like being called to the principal's office.
36. When you look at yourself before going out, and you are trying to see yourself from the outside, can you describe a bit about what this “other person” is like? What do they like, dislike, what sorts of judgments do they have? Is this “outer eye” based on someone you know or once knew?
She's smart. She is going to enjoy herself this evening. I generally see myself from the point of view of smart people who are also going to enjoy the evening.
37. What is your process getting dressed in the morning? What are you considering?
I usually put out two or three things the night before because I am hopeless in the morning, just blank and staring.
This is why I favour dresses: you put them on and you’re done. But I have a lot of beautiful skirts and tops and you have to study how to make them work together. This can be tiresome, so it’s easier just to slap them together on the morning of.
Weirdly, I have no mirror in my bedroom so I have to run to the spare room to look at a full-length mirror. I have a closet full of beautiful and much-loved clothes—clothes I lend and give to my daughters all the time—and I can’t figure out how I screwed up to the extent of not even having a mirror in the bedroom. It means something, I know.
It either means I’m channelling my mother (nobody’s going to be looking at you) or I’m just daft.
38. What are you trying to achieve when you dress?
I could fuck up badly today but still look competent in these clothes.
39. What, for you, is the difference between dressing and dressing up?
I always dress up.
40. If you had to wear a “uniform” what would it look like?
Is it a shalwar kameez? Not sure. They're long East Indian tunics to the knee with tight arms and bodices. They flare out and underneath you wear leggings. It's a great look. I saw a hotel waitress wearing a beautiful one in Kolkata but was never able to replicate that exact look. Grace and comfort.
41. What would you say is “you” and what would you say is “not you”?
I am neither drab nor freakish. I am not Madge (Dame Edna's drab little friend) and I am not a victim of Donatella Versace. The Italians have really messed up in women's style. It's garish, almost grotesque.
42. What is your cultural background and how has that influenced how you dress?
Father from India, mother from Scotland. Father approved of beauty and pleasure, mother found it suspect.
All that is sensible in me (like the central zippered compartment in my purse) comes from my mother and anything that is pleasurable comes from my father.
43. Do you remember a time in your life when you dressed quite differently from how you do now? Can you describe it and what it was all about for you?
I was a kid. My mother dressed me and I don't want to talk about it.
I will never get over the pixie cut though. Can still hear the sound of the razor stripping hair off my head. It was a Dickens' blacking factory level of humiliation.
44. What sorts of things do you do, clothing, make-up or hair-wise, to feel professional?
Wash, paint, smooth.
I hate bangs. They make my forehead itch. And then Michelle Obama got bangs. I saw the photo and said to myself, “Bet I’ll get bangs in a week.” I did, and I love them. They’re not itchy at all and they make me look more casual, less formal. I have always resented the porn look women are forced into: platinum flat-ironed hair, heavy makeup, big jewelry, flashy clothes and those huge pink lips that are designed to look like a wet vulva. So I like my casual bangs.
45. How do you conform to or rebel against the dress expectations at your workplace?
My workplace is dress-down. People shuffle in in bathrobes and carpet slippers. But because I used to freelance, I need to announce to myself in some way that I am in an official workplace and not working at home. So I wear office clothes. Yes, I am overdressed and many people—the union, various bosses, colleagues—have mentioned that, but I don’t care. I'm at work. I can't go watch the Daily Show midday in leggings and a T-shirt with toothpaste stains.
My newspaper has security guards in the lobby. I get a lot of threats from male readers, on Twitter and online generally, and I really love the feeling of safety I have at work.
46. Do you have a dress code, a school uniform, or a uniform that you wear for an extracurricular activity?
I have no extracurriculars. I just work all the time really. Reading is part of my work.
49. What is an archetypal outfit for you; one that you could have happily worn at any point in your life? What do you like about it?
Big sweater, small skirt, suede ankle boots. Looks good on every woman.
50. Do you ever wish you were a man or could dress like a man or had a man’s body? Was there ever a time in the past?
No, of course not. Dull.
Imagine having to haul around a willy all day. What if it got severed or something? I really feel for men having everything on the outside, having to share washrooms, having to find a place for the damn thing.
Men are beautiful and I love their bodies, love sex. But it's true what Jon Stewart says, men are the sex that looks weird naked. Women look better in and out of clothes.
51. If there was one country or culture or era that you had to live in, fashion-wise, what would it be?
Women's lives have been such a horror historically that I can't separate fashion from the pain women have endured.
I envision an era and just think I couldn't get an abortion or vote or own a house.
Throughout human history, women have been considered rubbish. I can't even try dressing up in 1890s tea gowns in my head without remembering that.
52. Do you consider yourself photogenic?
I don't like being photographed.
53. When you see yourself in photographs, what do you think?
You shouldn't have agreed to this.
54. Are there any figures from culture, past or present, whose style you admire or have drawn from?
The model and designer Ines de la Fressange. Just seeing a photo of her cheers me up. And her daughters are so pretty and chic.
55. Have you ever had a dream that involved clothes?
Work clothes, yes.
Once I dreamed that my editor made me wear his shoes. I had to clonk around in these huge heavy leather things. It was just stupid. "This is just stupid," I said.
56. What would be a difficult or uncomfortable look for you to try and achieve?
57. If you were totally comfortable with your body, or your body was a bit closer to what you wish it was like, what would you wear?
If I were taller, I could wear flat shoes with dresses and not look peculiar. And I could reach the higher cupboards, which would be life-changing.
58. Is there anyone that you are trying to attract or repel when you dress?
This one is important.
I have never been more attractive to men than in the week my father died. I was shocked and shattered. That made men see me as approachable. I don't blame them for this. It must be hard to be the one who generally has to make the first approach.
But I will never forget that my worst week saw strangers coming up to me--I was in office clothes--on the street and making offers. I looked vulnerable. I would just say, "Huh?" and look at them blankly.
61. What are some things you need to do to your body or clothes in order to feel presentable?
Dry-cleaning, ironing, etc. Maintenance counts.
62. How does makeup fit into all this for you?
I wear a French face powder that you have to order online but it’s great. It’s expensive but really, buy this stuff, whack it on, use some inexpensive eyeshadow and lipstick from M.A.C. and you’re in good shape.
Skin care, the world of unguents, is another story and I don’t want to talk about it. It’s so expensive and time-consuming and deeply boring. And you know, maybe it makes me look six months younger, as Nora Ephron said. Sometimes I think I have wasted my life on lotions.
63. Is there a certain look you feel you’re expected to like that you have absolutely no interest in? What is it? Why aren’t you interested?
Casual at the cottage.
Oh come on.
65. What is your favorite piece of clothing or jewelry that you own?
I bought an Erdem dress on sale, because the fit was tight on my breasts and then flowed out beautifully but not excessively. The flowers are sprinkled over the skirt like the most beautiful meadow you’ve ever skipped in. This fucker is gorgeous. I now hang it in my office at home because I want to look at it. I have almost nowhere to wear a dress this nice. But I concede that Erdem created a work of art, and I enjoy it daily.
66. Tell us about something in your closet that you keep but never wear. What is it, why don’t you wear it, and why do you keep it?
If I could blather a bit here, every Donna Karan dress I’ve ever bought has been shit. They’re so expensive and look great on the model. But they look awful on me and I’m thin. But I’m not perfect. The dresses are tight and only look good on women with perfect bodies. When I see Karan herself (she is extremely heavy and lumpy), it saddens me because I think she hates her customers, who are rich New York women. You can go easier on women by making the fabric thicker to conceal flaws, you can line the dress so it will flow more, etc. She doesn’t do this. An Italian company, La Petite Robe di Chiara Boni, does this beautifully and you’ll hear more of them soon. They are kind to women. They love their customers. I don’t know why Karan took the devil’s path.
67. Looking back at all your purchases over the past five to fifteen years, can you generalize about what sorts of things were the most valuable to buy?
Black cocktail dresses. Huge sweaters.
Really tight jeans.
68. Is there an item of clothing that you once owned, but no longer own, and still think about or wish you had back? What was it, what happened to it, and why do you want it back?
It was a 1980s Alfred Sung soft wool skirt in forest green (not that metallic techno-green they do now but an honest Sherwood Forest green) dotted with red roses, done in great detail. This was before the semi-printing of photos onto fabric. These were splendid scarlet roses. The wool was so soft that the skirt didn’t spread out like a typical 1950s silly skirt; it just fell and only swirled when I decided it would swirl. It was utterly beautiful and I feel that I have been hunting its replica ever since.
Alfred Sung made beautiful clothes that I can still wear 30 years later. This is a very rare skill. People say it about Isabel Toledo and Diane Von Furstenburg, and that’s about it. I suppose it would also be true of Chanel but the fact is, a Chanel suit adds 20 years and makes you look like a woman who doesn’t have a job.
I threw the skirt out in an excess of tidiness. What hurts is that these skirts are coming back but they aren’t a patch on the Sung skirt.
I think my love of the skirt harkens back to a Louis MacNeice poem I read as a teenagers about roses in snow and the contrast in colour. I think it was called “Snow.” I’ve always loved roses and you know, I’ve noticed that when I wear roses, women are drawn to it and will remark on it.
69. If you had to throw out all your clothes but keep one thing, what would you keep?
My huge thick black soft winter coat. It practically reaches my ankles. Look, it's Canada.
70. Building up your wardrobe from nothing, what would you do differently this time?
I would buy fewer things of better quality. Everyone says that though.
71. What’s the first “investment” item you bought? Do you still own or wear it?
A Max Mara Studio camel coat.
It really is very nice. That was only 3 years ago. I don't break the bank.
72. Was there ever an important or paradigm-shifting purchase in your life?
When I realize that I could afford to buy a really good winter coat that would last five years. I was no longer skint.
That was a revelation. Journalists don't make a lot of money, it's not part of the deal.
73. What item of clothing are you still (or have you forever been) on the hunt for?
I want a pink fluffy coat. Hot pink. Like Kitsey had in The Goldfinch, and yes, I know Kitsey was a sociopath.
The colour is emphatic and the coat is warm. Two needs.
74. What are your closet and drawers like? Do you keep things neat, etc?
Neat, orderly, arranged by colour. Pants. Sweaters in drawers. Shirts and sweaters on hangers. Dresses. Skirts.
It's a triumph of categorizing.
75. Were you ever given a present of clothing or jewelry that especially touched you?
I have no expensive jewelry except for one simple gold necklace that my husband bought me. I have worn it for decades. It works, it really works.
Simple is best.
I really despise diamonds and so on, that Tiffany neurosis. Who dug this out of the earth with their bare hands? Who artificially imposed this idea that jewels are worth a damn thing?
I like coloured glass.
76. Did you ever buy an article of clothing without giving it much thought, only to have it prove much more valuable as time went on? What was the item and what happened?
All the time. You buy a dress. Ten years pass. It's still great.
It was a Diane von Furstenberg sack dress in scarlet, navy and white. I wear it belted. You can shove that thing on and be ready for anything.
Women, tunics and sack dresses are your friend.
77. How and when do you shop for clothes?
I mainly shop online. I shop online a lot because the nastiness of salespeople and a stressful frantic Christmas Shop atmosphere tires me out. I don’t need help, I know what I like, I’m good at shopping. I have earned every dollar I spend. It’s my money. If I spend too much, it’s my decision. My husband never questions it. I would not love a man who questioned personal female decisions. (I buy all his clothes. He’s a really nice man and I like to take care of him and show the world that I love him. That said, I do not iron his clothes. )
In stores, I do what all women do and touch things, even things I'm not going to buy. Women touch fabric with expertise and assiduity. Men do not understand this.
I shop really fast and well. I call it "barracuda shopping" where you glide through the aisles like a shark nosing slightly from side to side.
78. Do you like to smell a certain way?
I love perfume but rarely wear it because I've had people scream at me about their allergies and so on.
Can't be good to get migraines. My sister has bad allergies.
I think I am hopeless at perfume, bad at choosing it and understanding it. That said, no one should smell like fruit or chocolate. You are a woman, not a comestible.
79. How does how you dress play into your ambitions for yourself?
I have no ambitions beyond continuing to be a writer. I would like my husband to still think I am a babe. He says he does. I hope he is sincere.
80. How does money fit into all this?
You do not need a lot of money to dress well. Until I was 25, I sewed my own clothes, including winter coats. The truth is, you see rich women in stores and they invariably dress like freaks or dullards, no middle ground. I really do not get this.
81. Is there an article of clothing, a piece of make-up, or an accessory that you carry with you or wear every day?
Lipstick. I put it on, chew it off, eat pounds of it every year. It's not good, wish I could stop.
82. Did anyone ever say anything to you that made you see yourself differently, on a physical and especially sartorial level?
I was once tormented by a female co-worker who commented on everything about me, my skin, my hair, my clothing which she mocked, that I called my husband "darling" on the phone. I mean who studies someone's skin? She liked my smooth skin, but still, it was over the top.
The weird thing is, I don't think she realized that she was being rude. In fact, I think she admired me. But she had no idea that women spend their lives having every inch of their acreage assessed and that I was a feminist who was long past tolerating this.
I am still puzzled by the thoughtless unkindness of other women. Middle-aged women can be terribly cruel to each other. This will change generationally but at the moment it is true. It is a kind of workplace violence, one man said, and he was right.
What attracted me to Women in Clothes was how welcoming and inclusive it was to all kinds of women everywhere. I think the project is glorious.
83. Do you remember the first time you were conscious of what you were wearing? Can you describe this moment and what it was about?
Oh my mother had me in these horrible turquoise pants and I got dogshit on them. It is just really hard to be a kid, plodding home because there is just no other way to deal with it.
Notice that adults don't get dog crap on their clothes, only their shoes. I guess kids are shorter.
What’s your birth date? Where were you born and where do you live now?
I was born in a place smaller than a village in northern Manitoba in Canada and moved to slightly larger places. I now live in Toronto.
Say anything you like about your cultural/ethnic/economic background.
I am an urban Canadian.
What kind of work do you do?
I'm a columnist for Canada's largest newspaper, the Toronto Star.
Are you single, married, do you have kids, etc.?
I am married and have two children. We have been together for 400 years and are very happy. The kids are grown women now and fill me with great joy. I still buy them clothes.
Please say anything you like about yourself that might put this survey into some sort of context.
I'm glad you let me talk about clothing. Women are asked to "confess" everything in their world, although mostly sex, but nobody has ever asked me about clothing. Thank you. What a kindness.
How do you feel after filling out this survey?
A great burden lifted, a blast of pleasure. Thank you, all of you. I am so grateful and happy to talk about this hidden subject.
Heather Mallick is the author of two nonfiction books and a staff columnist at the Toronto Star.