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1. When do you feel at your most attractive?
When I attract many guys.
2. Do you notice women on the street? If so, what sort of women do you tend to notice or admire?
I notice well dressed, elegant or daring women, who do not follow trends but have a clear clothing style, or even reject styles. Women who are radical towards fashion, who don't follow rules, they are very empowering(wearing clothes that are surprising matches). I also notice traditionally dressed women, I admire them for their (self-)control, not having to express anything that goes on in their lives, just relying on the beauty standards of that culture, that is also very respectable.
3. What are some things you admire about how other women present themselves?
I like it when women are not afraid that they may be judged not following beauty standards, like doing nails, going to the hairdresser, wearing new, branded clothes... I like it when they feel good in their bodies so they encourage that you can be sexy just the way you are, this is what the world needs, not having to feel bad about not being thin, athletic, firm, unwrinkled, no gray hair etc.
4. Was there a moment in your life when something “clicked” for you about fashion or dressing or make-up or hair? What? Why did it happen then, do you think?
I like wearing oversized mans shirts, I felt liberated not having to show my figure even if I'm thin and ok. I like this style, I could experiment without being tied to gender specific clothing, and comfort is very important to me, but still looks better than a t-shirt. I think it clicked because it encoureged me not having to be pretty in the traditional girlie way.
5. What are some shopping rules you wouldn’t necessarily recommend to others but which you follow?
Impulsive shopping. I'm very
6. What are some rules about dressing you follow, but you wouldn't necessarily recommend to others?
Impulsive buying. I'm quite conservative, it rarely happens that I get struck by a wave of liberation and I dare to imagine myself in another view. But I need this refreshment from time to time.
7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?
Unfortunately, I don't recall having any of that. My entourage is more trend-driven, than me, we don't have transformative conversations about fashion.
8. Do you have a unified way of approaching your life, work, relationships, finances, chores, etc.? Please explain.
Lately I try alot to be myself, I try to rebel in whatever I can, to express thoughts and feelings about everything(or nothing at all :) But overall I'm very comfort-driven, I like casual elegance.
9. Are there any clothing (or related) items that you have in multiple? Why do you think you keep buying this thing?
I have black, long sleeved skinny tops that I can wear simply or as base for layering other clothes on top. They are very versatile and black looks good on me.
10. Have you ever successfully given someone a present of jewelry or clothing that you continue to feel good about?
One or two items, yes.
11. Is there any fashion trend you’ve refused to participate in and why?
Yes, the current one about nineties and eighties, yuck!
12. Can you say a bit about how your mother’s body and style has been passed down to you, or not?
Fortunately I'm not like my mother except one thing that we have in common, small hips, that makes our boditypes square shaped.
Her style is also more traditionally feminine, I don't like to confirm to that now. But her sense of style is great I think.
13. Have you stolen, borrowed or adapted any dressing ideas or actual items from friends or family?
I followed tips according to my mom. I like to wear interesting discarded items of family members, that also inspires me to style them, and I don't have to shop that often(I hate shopping).
14. Was there a point in your life when your style changed dramatically? What happened?
No, unfortunaltely my style changes organically. I would love to be that daring and definite...
15. Is there anything political about the way you dress?
Not if unconsciously.
16. Please describe your body.
My bodytype is square shaped, I'm average height, slim, white, brown haired, brown eyed.
17. Please describe your mind.
:) Kind if childish, unconstrained, need for freedom and originality. I need lots of reassurance, if around people, but I feel good spending a lot of time alone. Like to be in nature, alwalys in search of some art or spiritual realm, searching and developing my true self.
18. Please describe your emotions.
Hidden. Takes much time and effort to liberate myself from fears and expectations. I can be fearful if angry or passionate.
19. What are you wearing on your body and face, and how is your hair done, right at this moment?
I wear home clothes, comfy pants, hoodie. My hair is stright out of bed, I washed my face with cold water, no make up, nothing.
20. In what way is this stuff important, if at all?
I rarely spend time and effort to look good indoors during the lockdown, every minute counts, the days fly so quickly. I usually dress for others, not myself.
21. With whom do you talk about clothes?
Friends mostly but I'm open to anyone on this subject, I guess.
22. How do institutions affect the way you dress?
My style meets most needs everywhere, I'm not really constrained.
23. Do you think you have taste or style? Which one is more important? What do these words mean to you?
They are similar, you can't have one without the other, if you have taste, you'll have some kind of style. Taste is more important to me.
24. Do you remember the biggest waste of money you ever made on an item of clothing?
I bought a top, that I'm not wearing because I'm afraid it will get sweat stains.
25. Are there any dressing tricks you’ve invented or learned that make you feel like you’re getting away with something?
26. Do you have style in any areas of your life aside from fashion?
Arts, furnishings, music, movies.
27. Can you recall some times when you have dressed a particular way to calm yourself or gain a sense of control over a situation that scared you?
Yes, my friends wedding. I had to wear what made me feel good, so that I can freely enjoy the wedding.
28. Would you say you “know what you like” in the area of fashion and clothing? If so, do you also know what you like in other areas of life, that is, are you generally good at discernment? Can you say where your discernment comes from, if you have it? Or if you don’t have it, why or why not?
Yes I have. I think it comes from uncomfortable life events when I did or was somehow forced to do certain things that I wouldn't want to repeat.
29. Did your parents teach you things about clothing, care for your clothing, dressing or style? What lessons do you remember? Or did you just pick things up?
Yeah, all of that. But I evolved from that, I needed more. I remember none in particular.
30. What sorts of things do you do, clothing or make-up or hair- wise, to feel sexy or alluring?
I emphasize parts of me that I think they look good, my hair, smile, thinness. I wear v-neck tops, take care of my skin and hair, pluck my eyebrows, wear mascara and perfume.
31. Many people say they want to feel “comfortable,” or that they admire people who seem “confident.” What do these words really mean to you?
Very much. I understand them completely and agree. This is what I also follow.
32. If dressing were the only thing you did, and you were considered an expert and asked to explain your style philosophy, what would you say?
Clean style, simple wear. Keep it simple and light. Clothing should be an asset to make living easier and better. The people wearing them are more important.
33. What is really beautiful, for you, in general?
34. What do you consider very ugly?
Copying, following trends without personalizing, following celerities blindly, wearing plastic based clothing, wearing expensive, deliberatley ugly aesthetics.
35. Are you generally a good judge of whether what you buy will end up being worn? Have you figured out how to know in advance?
Waiting a few days before buying always helps.
36. When you look at yourself before going out, and you are trying to see yourself from the outside, can you describe a bit about what this “other person” is like? What do they like, dislike, what sorts of judgments do they have? Is this “outer eye” based on someone you know or once knew?
No, I usually avoid doing that. I'm very critical of myself and very insecure. If I would analize myself this way, I would end up not leaving the house. I'm also not very interested in how I look from the outside, feeling good is enough.
37. What is your process getting dressed in the morning? What are you considering?
Weather! My mood and preferences according to that. I consider the events during the day.
38. What are you trying to achieve when you dress?
It depends. Sometimes to feel clothes the least. Sometimes I like their stiffness, it gives me holding.
39. What, for you, is the difference between dressing and dressing up?
Dressing up is putting more effort in creating harmony and concordance with events, going for sympathy.
40. If you had to wear a “uniform” what would it look like?
Full body workwear with belt.
41. What would you say is “you” and what would you say is “not you”?
Me: organic material, elegant cuts.
Not me: puffy polyester jackets, ankle lenght jeans, chunky sneakers, dyed blond hair.
42. What is your cultural background and how has that influenced how you dress?
Eastern european background, low income, trift shopping, reused clothes, self sawn clothes. It influenced me not trusting luxury, not aiming for expensive brands.
43. Do you remember a time in your life when you dressed quite differently from how you do now? Can you describe it and what it was all about for you?
Teenage years. I wanted to stand out by being trendy.
44. What sorts of things do you do, clothing, make-up or hair-wise, to feel professional?
I wear organic materials, I look for good quality, nice colors and cuts, durability, classic style(like red lipstick), not dyeing my hair, not taking my look too far from the natural look(french style).
45. How do you conform to or rebel against the dress expectations at your workplace?
I tend to express my opinion through clothes, I think workplace clothing should be somewhat conservative, like not wearing hot pants, flip-flops, tank tops etc. We don't have these rules at our office, I miss them.
46. Do you have a dress code, a school uniform, or a uniform that you wear for an extracurricular activity?
I have a boiler suit that I like to wear with a belt, colorful socks and white sneakers.
47. Are there ways in which you conform to or rebel against these uniforms?
I conform to this kind of workwear because it's easy to wear and comfortable (and has a style to it).
48. Do you find it comforting or constraining to have a uniform?
Comforting, yes. I don't have to worry about what and how and why to wear.
49. What is an archetypal outfit for you; one that you could have happily worn at any point in your life? What do you like about it?
Long sleeved cotton shirt, jeans, sneakers or laced boots. Easy and casual, but somewhat elegant.
50. Do you ever wish you were a man or could dress like a man or had a man’s body? Was there ever a time in the past?
Quite a lot. I like the freedom men have, they aren't judged for every single choice, they are more accepted for what they are/do. They can go unshaved, even dirty, have worn clothes... still a man's thing to do. I would like to be a thin, not so athletic man, moderatlely displaying muscles.
51. If there was one country or culture or era that you had to live in, fashion-wise, what would it be?
I don't know. I would love to wear corsets and nicely tailored dresses from time to time, but in other areas of life... I pretty much prefer the present.
52. Do you consider yourself photogenic?
That only depends on the photographer.
53. When you see yourself in photographs, what do you think?
Only professionals can capture my face as I see it in the mirror, otherwise I don't like myself in photos.
54. Are there any figures from culture, past or present, whose style you admire or have drawn from?
Many cultures! Almost every culture I got to know until today.
55. Have you ever had a dream that involved clothes?
Maybe, I don't remember.
56. What would be a difficult or uncomfortable look for you to try and achieve?
Dyeing my hair blond.
57. If you were totally comfortable with your body, or your body was a bit closer to what you wish it was like, what would you wear?
I would show my legs more often, I would wear sandals more. I would cut my hair short.
58. Is there anyone that you are trying to attract or repel when you dress?
To attract: intelligent male, with a good taste, but seomewhat rebel themselves. Females with these traits to be friends with.
To repel: male who search for a quick date, someone young, with little experience. Trendy women, who would despise me for being so behind with fashion and looks.
59. Are there any dressing rules you’d want to convey to other women?
Yes: Don't chase mens likes, don't diminish yourselves for the sake of man who are after sex objects.
60. What do you think of perfume? Do you wear it?
It is a form of art. I only wear perfume occasionally.
61. What are some things you need to do to your body or clothes in order to feel presentable?
Me and my clothes (and shoes)should be clean, my clothes shouldn't have wrinkles on them, no smell, no stains, no sticking, in good condition, not smaller then my size. Face: no puffy eyes, no facial hair, no acne if possible, no visibly greasy hair at the workplace.
62. How does makeup fit into all this for you?
Minimal make-up like mascara, corrector, lip balm, maybe BB cream.
63. Is there a certain look you feel you’re expected to like that you have absolutely no interest in? What is it? Why aren’t you interested?
The trendy one that young people prefer, the B. Eilish style. I'm too old to be fooled by that, I have almost nothing to hide, why would I dress in oversized neon color sweatshirts and pants, dye my hair, put on crazy eyeglasses and do my nails?
64. Can you describe in a basic way what you own, clothing and jewelry-wise?
I don't wear jewelry. You are getting really curious and I'm getting kind of bored of this survey... it is too much to describe my closet: all kinds of stuff.
65. What is your favorite piece of clothing or jewelry that you own?
My shirts. They are the base of my current style.
66. Tell us about something in your closet that you keep but never wear. What is it, why don’t you wear it, and why do you keep it?
Clothes for formal events, celebrations. Rare ocasions. All of us need these kind of stuff too.
67. Looking back at all your purchases over the past five to fifteen years, can you generalize about what sorts of things were the most valuable to buy?
Leather boots. Wool coats, cotton shirts, scarves.
68. Is there an item of clothing that you once owned, but no longer own, and still think about or wish you had back? What was it, what happened to it, and why do you want it back?
My winter coats. One black wool coat, tailor made. One army green. They just got overused. Some shoes and boots for the same reason.
69. If you had to throw out all your clothes but keep one thing, what would you keep?
Would take some time to decide that. Maybe some presentable clothes I could wear to go out and buy new ones :)
70. Building up your wardrobe from nothing, what would you do differently this time?
I can't say that I wouldn't keep old, sentimental valued stuff because those just pile up anyway.
71. What’s the first “investment” item you bought? Do you still own or wear it?
I don't have precious items lik that.
72. Was there ever an important or paradigm-shifting purchase in your life?
Maybe, I don't remember and it doesn't matter now.
73. What item of clothing are you still (or have you forever been) on the hunt for?
Black v neck M&S style cashmere sweater. The pair of perfect sandals. The perfect kitten heel shoes. The perfect, non-knock, silent heels.
74. What are your closet and drawers like? Do you keep things neat, etc?
Yup! I love organizing.
75. Were you ever given a present of clothing or jewelry that especially touched you?
A pair of heart shaped earrings, a golden necklace and ring.
76. Did you ever buy an article of clothing without giving it much thought, only to have it prove much more valuable as time went on? What was the item and what happened?
77. How and when do you shop for clothes?
Nowdays I shop rarely. I go thrifting. I'm looking for one thing or just give it a chance. If I need something specific, I search the internet or go to the mall to see and try clothes on.
78. Do you like to smell a certain way?
I would love to smell as newly washed clothes.
79. How does how you dress play into your ambitions for yourself?
I has quite a role in it.
80. How does money fit into all this?
It takes money to live in a place where good quality clothes(and other stuff) are available(even delivered if ordered online). You have to have an entourage to train your eyes, yous taste, to develop a style. To compare and try things. That takes money.
81. Is there an article of clothing, a piece of make-up, or an accessory that you carry with you or wear every day?
82. Did anyone ever say anything to you that made you see yourself differently, on a physical and especially sartorial level?
83. Do you remember the first time you were conscious of what you were wearing? Can you describe this moment and what it was about?
In college years. I wanted to differentiate myself from the rest of the girls in class. To make a statement about my preferences.
What’s your birth date? Where were you born and where do you live now?
1984, Eastern Europe
Say anything you like about your cultural/ethnic/economic background.
I prefer not to say anything.
What kind of work do you do?
Are you single, married, do you have kids, etc.?
In a relationship, no kids.
Please say anything you like about yourself that might put this survey into some sort of context.
It gave me an opportunity for self knowledge, but it took me quite a few hours to take it.
How do you feel after filling out this survey?
What is a short bio like in your opinion?