1. When do you feel at your most attractive?
1. When do you feel at your most attractive?
When I've had a great workout and I feel cleansed and am shining. Also when I am in the arms of someone I love.
2. Do you notice women on the street? If so, what sort of women do you tend to notice or admire?
Those with an eclectic style, that shows something of their own character and decisions rather than store bought - high street or designer. I like the little quirks, how someone ties their scarf, or carries a market bag or takes something simple and makes it their own.
I admire women who are stylish but in a natural, elegant way rather than a contrived, super put together look
3. What are some things you admire about how other women present themselves?
Those things like discipline - clear hair, teeth, clean short nails, being groomed. Being presentable always is like good manners. Women who are confident in their own bodies, who seem truly accepting and comfortable of who they are.
I think at 12. Learning how to apply Kajal, Indian kohl and also what I am named for. This simple black line to accentuate my eyes, it is so Indian - regardless of class and education. No matter where in the world I go, my Kajal pencil is this one simple thing that feels like a declaration of where I grew up. Well, and rose water.
Jewelry - a big part of my heritage and earrings seem to make or break an outfit for me. I discovered at uni in England, that my silver traditional jhumkas with a simple white T shirt - those earrings that swing with movement and make a tiny tinkling sound - it is home with me in my ears, ha! But seriously - accessories. I often pick my earrings first and then match my outfit to them for special occasions.
1. If you love it, really really love it - buy multiples
2. Shop alone - opinions are distracting, you should know what you like and what looks good on you
3. Have a clear non vain idea of what works and does not work for you. Stick to it. Evolve naturally but don't force follow a trend, please!
I don't like to mix patterns, personally but I know people who can pull this off brilliantly.
I think with my aunt at 16 perhaps, when I was starting to rebel against the convent school uniform style of dressing - not the school uniform, but that we all looked exactly the same. I didn't need skinny jeans and boots in Delhi summers, I wanted - of course, cotton floaty dresses and muslin tunics. I had the luxury of a massive amazing closet and learnt early about custom tailoring and alterations.. With her - discussing what I like, what suits me and why I don't have to dress exactly like my best friends - these principles are still things I live by.
Lists, lists, lists.
if I seem organizing and like I have my act together - it is only by way of making and striking things off lists. And reflection - making time to look at how I am living vs how I want to live. This works for everything from how my kitchen is run to how my home looks, how I travel and how organized my bank accounts are.
To have how I live reflect the kind of person I want to be...
I have big goals broken into to-do lists and timelines to achieve them by. I also often take a step back from complicated situations when I can't figure anything out.
I buy a lot of white cotton dresses - when I travel, or go back home to India. they are easy to dress up or down, and remind me of being younger and more carefree. They are also perfect for the tropical climate I now live in - Singapore.
One of my favourite people in the world gave me a custom made necklace which is a line from a Neruda poems. It is in gold, in his handwriting and very dear from me.
I also have diamonds from one granny and a simple gold bangle from my other granny that I cherish and wear often.
Bleurgh. So many. those drop crotch pants, gross. Torn tight jeans. looking like a hobo on purpose. anything with logos. wearing gym clothes to live in.
I don't want to live like other people, I don't want to look like other people.
To always be put together, to be glamourous - this was a lady who wore perfectly draped saris, matching glass bangles, simple diamonds and chanel no 5 every single day - as a surgeon attending to her patients.
To be brainy and to be beautiful at the same time - regardless of my complicated relationship with her - these are things that my sister and I grew up believing are normal. She did not follow trends but did take pride in her appearance and in my 30s, I am learning how much I absorbed of that. White lilies perfect and somewhat indulgent - hard to procure- tea, crisp clean linen - maybe all of these things more than her body or her wardrobe is what style consists of
I have an older sister and love/ treat her closet like an extension of my own.
I have several earrings of hers - including a pair of emeralds that she does not seem to be missing, ha!
My close friends and I sometimes give each other clothes that we admire on the other. I have an over sized green kimono from a good friend and a silk scarf from another.
when I moved to London, aged 21 - working in a French agency. That was probably my biggest switch as the ladies around me - on the tube, at work, in coffee shops - all looked so perfectly put together that I made more of an effort.
In London, I took more time with my clothes, hair and make up. When I moved to Hong Kong, at 28 - my wardrobe changed to suit the climate but being surrounded by glamour and style and money perhaps - means a little of that rubs off
Not really but I like and support several small Indian designers and labels - that I wear with pride and advocate where ever I am
Curvy! Hourglassy when toned and fit - big smile, curves, smaller waist, bigger hips. I like my arms and shoulders, they are fit from boxing.
I have to work out regularly and watch what I eat to keep my shape. If I am undisciplined, I will turn into an unsexy blob.
Hungry, curious, always changing.
I take care to feed it every day and weed it regularly too.
Generally I try to be happy but sometimes in very complicated situations, I think my mind can explode and then be extremely hurtful and ugly - inside and out. I am aware of this and work on it regularly.
I meditate every morning as without that, I do not feel grounded.
Today - it is Sunday and I am happy. There is lovely coffee, emails to reply to, lunch is perfect broccoli and tofu stir fry, my house is clean and there is an Indian rose scented oil in my burner. My mind is calm and unhurried, I know what I will be doing later and am looking forward to catching up with old friends.
I just took a shower, I never blow dry my hair so it is still wet. I am wearing a soft, blue cotton t shirt - v neck and made from sustainable cotton. I am wearing black yoga pants as I plan to go for a class later in the afternoon. No make up, just some simple aloe based moisturizer.
When I go out, I will add kohl and lip balm. But I am not a big fan of make up beyond that.
It is important because it is part of who I am, right now - in this moment, in this apartment in Singapore, running my own business - this is the woman I am. And everything it has taken to get here is condensed and reflected in how I show myself to the world.
I don't talk that much about clothes - sometimes with friends
I play stylist to my friends and am often asked to take them shopping or help build new looks.
I work in a creative industry so I don't have a real work wardrobe per se. But when I go to a meeting in a bank, I am always more conservative.
I also hate how H&M and other fast fashion chains are making us lazy - everything is there within reach, copy a look, don't think about what you are buying, give in and have too much junk.
so I edit and have budgets for clothes and give a piece away for each I buy. this comes from HK and living in small spaces and moving countries often perhaps.
I think good taste can be cultivated, or learnt. It is more surface. It can be easily borrowed or faked even.
Style I think is inherent. you grow up with it, it is a sum total of your experiences, your travels, what you read and what you listen to. It is in how you order vegetables, how you treat your friends, how you make your coffee.
I hope I am stylish with a splash of (bad) taste. Life is more fun that way!
A really gorgeous grey woollen coat that I bought in Shanghai on a cold winter trip and have worn exactly twice since :(
Inexpensive clothes > tailored perfectly to your body, a few snips and changes when you know garments and your own flaws >> can look so much more expensive and put together.
In everything. In everyday, I hope.
How you work, what you do for work, how you maintain relationships, how you take care of your body and mind, how you decorate, entertain, eat.
And who you are when no one is looking.
When I have a big meeting, I wear heels to look taller and feel more confident. I wear solid colours and no big accessories so that they can focus on what I am saying.
When I feel scared or tired, I wear an old old blue jumper with a hoodie so I can pretend to hide from the world
When I miss my Dad, I wear his grey cashmere sweater sometimes.... or I did, when I lived in places with a real winter
Yes, I generally know what I like. I think it comes from living in different places and meeting with a lot of interesting, well informed people. So if you are sponge, you can pick up bits from everyone and everything.
Like in a small village in Vietnam, I loved how they were using soup ladles for soap dishes. And I incorporated that in my Shanghai apartment.
yes, we (the kids) were responsible for checking our school uniform was ironed and free of any tears or missing buttons. we also had to polish our own shoes - My Dad taught me how.
so I think checking for the condition of my clothes, having things repaired quickly when needed and keeping an eye on my shoes is what I learn. It is great to be friends with an excellent tailor and cobbler.
I like to wear my hair down with lots of volume, imperfect is sexier than sleek.
I like to show my shape, I feel powerful and confident when I dress in dresses that cinch at my waist. And wearing good matching lingerie.
Perfume. sexy alluring custom made perfume.
unpedicured feet out in the open - I mean ugly, chipped nail paint, feet not taken care of say a lot about the person they belong to.
A navy dress, pearls and gold sandals
I am not loud clothes, colourful kaftans or bling.
I am neutral, with happy accessories and a fantastic bag collection
I love love love India and my love of colour and jewelry comes from my culture. Because I grew up in New Delhi which is super hot in the summers, I am happiest in cotton. I only wear natural fabrics. And hate polyester.
Certain beauty habits like coconut oil for my hair, tiny dabs of rose and vetiver oils also come from India
jazz age! new york!!
yes, as long as I smile
Generally that I was prettier and slimmer than I felt at the time. We are all so self critical.
body con dresses! too tight jeans and heels. anything too fussy with lace and bits around
love it and wear it sparingly. my scents change with my moods and my day but I usually wear a custom made perfume based on scents of my childhood. It is comforting, not loud, close to the skin and very me.
clean hair, nails and teeth. clear skin, hair brushed.
clothes - neat, no tears or threads, ironed.
Don't wear much except for super special occassions like weddings!
A silk tunic from India that I have had for over 15 years, is in great condition and fits well regardless of fat or skinny months!!
small bits of jewelry or clothes from local stores discovered while travelling
a perfect soft snug leather jacket - moto style that I wore often in London and was nicked at a pub. I miss it, it felt like a hug.
a black cotton-silk dress that works regardless of occasion
buy less and edit more
A YSL mobasa bag in dark brown from Tom Ford's last collection. I still own it and carry it often.
Setting up my own company made me realize I need to update my look to look less happy-creative and more in control business person.
The perfect white shirt.
custom made closet, very neat. Organized and micro organized.
yes, soft, sensual but not loud.
need it, love it, have it and want to spend it well.
I wear lip balm everyday and always have some on me.
When I feel insecure, I wear a gold necklace that says 'om' - given to me by my parents when I left home for the first time. I feel it protects me.