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36. When you look at yourself before going out, and you are trying to see yourself from the outside, can you describe a bit about what this “other person” is like? What do they like, dislike, what sorts of judgments do they have? Is this “outer eye” based on someone you know or once knew?

She likes dancing with no shoes on, laughing until her face hurts, and seems like she can stare straight into your soul. She’s impossibly elegant. She’s someone I could never be. If this were based on anyone, it would be based on who I think I should have become.

I am very fashionable. They think I spent enough time for my shopping. Sometimes it happened to me.

This is another stupid set of questions. I don't like mirrors. I do my thing. If others judge me, they own the problem, because if I'm satisfied with how I look before I go out, that's ALL that matters. I don't seek or need approval from anyone but myself.

I hope that it looks nice and not overdone.

I am stuck with my father's judgement in my self-observation. He paid me about $2000 to wear high heels on my wedding day. It was worth the sell out.

This "other person" has a much more mainstream sense of style than me. If my outfit has something too outside the box, the other person immediately gets critical. However, they appreciate interesting things. If my outfit is too boring, it always needs something "else." I don't think they are based on any one person, but on my observations about other people's styles.

i dont get that association - to be honest, i try not to look. If everything seems neat enough, that is good enough for me

Depends on where I'm going. usually i imagine people I definitely will meet to be the outer eye.

I just like to look different. I like when people note that I am unique. This is not to say that "I'm not like all the other girls" or that other anti-feminist bullshit. I like for people to think "I wouldn't have considered wearing a vintage sweater with a cheetah print rockabilly collar and a bright red lip to a frat party." There's room for all of us! I can be here, too. I like to pique interest.

Someone who is a little bit self-conscious about the way that they look, but someone who doesn't spend countless hours manipulating the way that she looks - someone who doesn't spend a lot of money and time on makeup, hair dos and glitzing herself up. Someone who has strong values and someone who values intelligence and conversation over looks. Someone who likes to eat and drink with friends.

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