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4. Was there a moment in your life when something “clicked” for you about fashion or dressing or make-up or hair? what? why did it happen then, do you think?
No, I just tried myself out, first, by watching other people and what they wear. Than by checking what you can buy in stores and how it may look on me. Than by telling my mom I don't want to buy clothes anymore she chooses for me. And than somehow I found the things I liked and started wearing them. Still my taste changes and the things I wear change a bit.
For the longest time, I was deeply insecure about my hair. It was frizzy and poofy and awkward and never behaved in the ways I wanted it to. It never occurred to me that women in magazines with perfect hair spent hours using different products to get it to look like that. The day before I left home for college, I cut my hair into a pixie cut and it's been that way ever since. Now I never have to worry about spending hours and products getting it to look like magazine-girl-hair, and I feel much more feminine than I ever did when it was long. The development of other elements of my style and appearance have been fairly gradual.
Yes; when I was about 24 I left the ultra-conservative religion and life I was brought up in. I was reborn to life, and I could now look any way I wanted to; I could now be whoever I chose to be. And fashion was the way to show off, to celebrate, the real me.
Recently, I found out that I was trying to please other people when I bought clothes, and ended up with lots of items and no time or place to wear them, so I decided to listen to my own taste carefully, and try to adapt it to the circumstances. I realized it after breaking up with my last boyfriend and went shopping for new clothes.
I started caring about fashion and make-up when I accidently read a Vogue issue. There was a tribute to a designer who explain what his day was like. Then I started watching fashion shows and reading more magazines and I found out that this was what I wanted to be involved in. I think this happened then because I was impressed by the beauty and the magnificence behind every fashion show.
Just recently I have taken more of an interest and feel more confident about what I wear, how I look. I think it has coincided with a time in my life when I have become more authentic in general.
having a uniform helps a lot. I used to get so incredibly anxious about what to wear, there were too many options, I just wanted to wear the same clothes everyday. Now I tend to wear a lot of dark colors but I have a few accent colors that I throw in as a rule to brighten things up. I think another change that has helped me a lot is having more androgynous clothing options; sometimes I get panicky when my clothes are hyper feminine and it is very comforting to look good in something that doesn't hug every curve.
I think there have been a few? Most recently though, it occurred to me that even though I love clothes and clothes shopping and owning nice clothes, I never particularly enjoy getting dressed. It's usually stressful trying to find ensembles that are appropriate and "flattering", but now I think -- what the heck even is "flattering"? Who am I dressing for? Why don't I buy things that I like, even though I really like them? I think I'm just far more conscious of that sort of thing now.
When my mom made me wear a panty girdle to church in 8th grade- it was so horrible. I decided that day that I wouldn't be the kind of woman who will suffer to be beautiful, or put up with any BS at all
I just cut all my hair off, and it was like "Ah-hah!" I may not be my "hottest" self but feeling more confident then ever before, secure and confident knowing I made the change for myself and no one else.
Around my 30th I decided to stop buying lots of cheap things and concentrate on more expensive/good quality essentials long lasting items, for clothes, bags, shoes.
I didn't want to have a wardrobe full of useless garments anymore as I was moving a lot between countries. I needed to feel lighter.
I was going for favorite, fit me well, fine things that I would really adore and wear.
I also decided to stop wearing mascara, which was almost one of the only things I would wear for make up. Too lazy to remove it in the evening, too lazy to carry make up remover around.
But I kept a good moisturiser and a nice blush. Sometimes a lipstick to look more dressed up, and that one doesn't need no remover and goes by itself.
I guess my very own affirmed and assumed style was there then.
I realized that I couldn't just go out to a store, find anything that I was attracted to, and buy it. I had to make sure that I was buying clothing that fit with other pieces in my closet, and from there I developed my style.
I was 14 or something and read a copy of vogue. There was only one image that struck me. It was a model in a blue denim dress and a white T-shirt. She was wearing a pair of high heeled wooden sandals with white socks. At the time, it was different from what people around me would wear, serene, understated and beautiful.
Yes, fashion specifically. When I attended my very first book signing, I felt that I can be really in to it. And I love dresses! Maybe that's the one reason too.
Grad school/working life. I think I realized I didn't owe anyone anything, and that "professional" doesn't mean Ann Taylor separates for me. I think it was a combination of losing some weight, moving to the desert, having a boyfriend, and just like, being slightly more comfortable in my skin.
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There was never a moment - clothing has always been incredibly confusing to me. I am happiest in shorts and t-shirts, but when I became a teenager I felt the need to look presentable, or pretty. I usually change my mind about what I think I am pretty in, though, so I have no set style. Pretty is never comfortable. My interest in style stemmed from self-conciousness.
I worked for a fashion magazine in the late 1980s. I realized it is a relevant form of self expression and need not be trivialized. also, I decided I would never wear anything that would inhibit my ability to walk.
When I was fifteen I changed my appearance so drastically during the summer holidays that when I went back to school in the autumn, many people didn't recognise me. It was the era of New Wave and the early New Romantics and I realised that I didn't need to look conventionally 'pretty' or 'feminine'. It coincided with my getting contact lenses after many years of wearing hideous, heavy-framed National Health glasses which dominated my small face.
Yes, I just became older and more aware of the wide range of cool clothes there are
yes, when I was a teenager and I wanted to look like grunge girls... that style was political for me: fuck the system and all that... and I thought it was the style to look smart and interesting, not just a pretty girl
I feel like I'm always experiencing these 'clicks.' For example, within the past year, I realized that I didn't have to wear tight, form-fitting clothes for my body to look good and that some looser clothes are actually MORE flattering. For the two years prior to this revelation, I had been living in Mongolia, where the women wear tight clothes and are talking about each other's bodies constantly, so wearing tight clothes was the norm. When I got back to the States, the tight clothes didn't fit in as well, and I also just didn't feel as comfortable in them anymore. I'm still looking for comfort and attractiveness in my style, but the tight clothes was a big hump I had to get over.
Yes and No. My opinion is always changing and I am always discovering new things.
about 4 years ago when I bought a book about aging and mid-life fashion that was about reviewing your own body. I don't know why, but it suddenly occured to me that I could dress what I have today in a coordinated way - that I could play with how it looked to others. I have had a love-hate relationship with clothes - I was too cute as a teenager and it made me uncomfortable so I've always dressed in baggy clothes. I never knew how to connect how other people relate to me with what I wear. I'm doing better; experimenting, but it sure is uncomfortable. My latest thing are big rings! :)
Once I left school and home I started to dress a lot less conservatively. I think I had always wanted to, but had felt restricted by parents, culture and money! The style that I adopted in my early twenties is one that I still follow. I came of age in the 'grunge' era and maintain some of those anti-fashion philosophies. When I was younger I would never spend money on clothes. I didn't shave and I didn't wear makeup, but I dressed exactly as I wanted to, with lots of jewelry and experimentation with textiles and colours. I'm less hippy now, but I still like to feel that the outer me is expressing my values and the high esteem I have for comfort and freedom. I also try not to oppress any other person or animal with my clothing and fashion choices, although there are times when I'm not strict about this: in this world, I'm sure that I do support sweatshops and animal testing, sometimes inadvertently.
As a young teenager I suddenly stopped wearing high-heal shoes and make up and chose a more natural way to dress. This was complete Freedom. I was dressing for myself.
Middle age; decided I did not want to look like just another older woman.
I think one day I just woke up and for whatever reason decided to wear red lipstick. I had several shades and I wasn't going anywhere so I thought, "why not?", but I forgot I had it on and went out to do errands, grocery shopping, getting gas, picking up some make-up, and doing laundry. When I got home I realized I still had the red lipstick on. People definitely stared ,I remember. But it looked amazing, and it was when I realized that I shouldn't be scared to be BOLD
Several times something "clicked" for me, most of the time is too expensive to buy it so I admire it, pin it, share it or talk about it.
After college when I didn't know what to wear or who I was, a friend told me to buy only black clothes for a year. She said limiting myself to a monochrome palate --freeing myself from worrying about matching -- would help me find what other parameters mattered to me. She was right!
Pretty early on (Junior High School?) I wanted to feel good on my terms; wear what I was comfortable in or thought was fun not what was fashionable.