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1. When do you feel at your most attractive?
When I'm at ease in my own skin, capable of being effortlessly funny. I could be wearing a crappy t-shirt and jeans or dressed up for a wedding. I think it's more due to the people I'm with than anything else.
2. Do you notice women on the street? If so, what sort of women do you tend to notice or admire?
I am such a pervert. I'm always looking at what other women are doing, whether it's the gap between the bottom of their (cuffed?) jeans and their shoes (and are there socks?), or their hair (how did they make it so shiny). There's this ineffable equilibrium that some women manage to strike - my best friend has a uniform of jeans, band tshirt, leather jacket, a super sharp haircut, and she always looks perfect, as does my favourite colleague, who has a markedly different, sleeker style. Sometimes I'll ask a woman where she got a piece of her outfit if I'm really in love with it; the chances of ever finding out otherwise are minimal. And sometimes if I'm feeling really brazen, and about to get off public transport or something, I might tell a woman I love how she looks, then disappear so I don't have to make conversation. I admire women who carry themselves with confidence, and where there was definitely once a part of my brain that compared whether I was thinner than them, in the past couple of years I've made friends who have made me realise that it's a bullshit way to think, both for other people and yourself. (I think I still do it innately, it's ingrained after doing it for about 17 years, but I try very hard not to give that observation value any more.)
3. What are some things you admire about how other women present themselves?
I think I like women who have a uniform. There are a few famous women whose outfits I keep track of, and a colleague and a few friends, and the defining characteristic is that they have something that's *them*. But then because I'm always trying to copy them, I have no uniform because it's made up of half a dozen different women's uniforms! Practicality is also a big draw too, which ties into the uniform/utilitarian idea. I like wild prints and weird shapes, but nothing obtrusive.
4. Was there a moment in your life when something “clicked” for you about fashion or dressing or make-up or hair? What? Why did it happen then, do you think?
Makes me feel gross and like a patriarchal product to say this, but being with my boyfriend changed the way I see myself. I hated my body, myself, my outfits when I met him, I wore big black sacks just to hide. But he appealed to my logical side and helped me figure out what I actually liked about other people's clothes - the uniform idea above came from him - and how I could apply those ideas to my own body type and tastes.
5. What are some shopping rules you wouldn’t necessarily recommend to others but which you follow?
Establish a small pantheon of shops and stick to them when going shopping in public.
6. What are some rules about dressing you follow, but you wouldn't necessarily recommend to others?
"If men wore skirts and dresses would they wear this? Yes? Okay! Wear it!" And I like to dress in a way where people can't necessarily tell what kind of person I am because of it. I once got a haircut I hated because, I told my boyfriend, it made me look like someone who went to ATP. He reminded me that I had been to ATP 12 times.
7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?
I guess it's an ongoing IRL and social media conversation where my role is mostly goggling in awe at how smart she is, but my friend Bethany has a wonderful fatshion blog where she celebrates and digs into her own self-image, confronts the way society responds to fat women, the way fat women respond to each other, dismantling glib bullshit like that "how to get a bikini body: buy bikini, put on body" meme, ideas about how anyone "should" dress, the bullshit idea of "real" women, all while positing the notion that fat is a simple adjective and not a value judgement. She has irrevocably changed the way I think about my body, fashion, other female/identifying bodies, and I learn from her every day. Like today she called herself her own personal daily fatspo (fatspiration) and I thought, man, I want to feel like that about myself. She's like that wonderful Eartha Kitt gif where she talks about being in love with herself, you know the one?
8. Do you have a unified way of approaching your life, work, relationships, finances, chores, etc.? Please explain.
Total logic with odd flashes of utter absurdity. I like dressing practically but also flamboyant patterns. I'm good at not spending money and eating healthily, but I can also put logic in the bin for a second to go against all those governing impulses.
9. Are there any clothing (or related) items that you have in multiple? Why do you think you keep buying this thing?
Black Marks and Spencer cotton underpants without the scalloped edges. I buy them because they're comfy, foolproof, last so long that I make myself chuck them once a year for hygiene reasons, and I've been wearing them since I was about 11. My mum bought a pack, didn't like them, gave them to me and I've been on them since. Also there's this weird lore/perfect marketing around M&S underwear that would make me feel like a traitor for buying them anywhere else. (Except fancy pants, they can come from wherever.)
10. Have you ever successfully given someone a present of jewelry or clothing that you continue to feel good about?
I buy my oldest friend really good underwear!
11. Is there any fashion trend you’ve refused to participate in and why?
Normcore. I think it's weird fetishization. And my bum would look terrible in those baggy jeans. That weird upside-down-crucifix-sleek-goth thing. Again with the fetishization and wearing of symbols that mean nothing to me. Creepers, because they're impractical.
12. Can you say a bit about how your mother’s body and style has been passed down to you, or not?
We dress quite differently (though practically) and have different body types, I think, but I get my makeup habits from her wholesale: she barely wore any when I was a kid and still doesn't now. Her daily routine was and remains just black pencil eyeliner. Mine is black mascara.
13. Have you stolen, borrowed or adapted any dressing ideas or actual items from friends or family?
Ha, yes. My oldest friend and I dress really similarly, to the extent that we don't mind buying exactly the same thing or even appearing in the same place at the same time in the same outfit. When we lived together we just helped ourselves to each other's wardrobes (handily we are the same size everything). We and our group of friends are pretty cavalier about lending each other clothes that we know we won't get back for ages. I nicked a bikini off my auntie, which I still have, and a wrap dress from a friend, which I don't. And ideas - right now I copy most from my aforementioned colleague, Jenny. She always looks immaculate, whether she's wearing a breton stripe t-shirt and mum jeans, or a black slinky thing from Cos.
14. Was there a point in your life when your style changed dramatically? What happened?
I remember when I started my first proper job. The dress code is casual (I now have my third proper job in the same place), but in the first week I was struck by the urge to go and buy some smart clothes. I got tailored trousers, wedge shoes, maybe a shirt, and from that point onwards I got into more structured outfits, though I still go to work in what looks like pyjamas now and then.
15. Is there anything political about the way you dress?
I dress for me in that my primary impulse is to make myself feel good and to fit my own weird parameters of cool/acceptable. But I also dress to fit different situations, like putting on costumes. Years ago I was nervous before interviewing my favourite band, and an older friend told me to dress like them. They're five men in their late 30s and I was just 21, but I put on a shirt and neat trousers, and it kind of worked, I felt like I fit their gang immediately. So I do that to this day, slightly modifying my outfit to fit in with whoever I'm seeing that day. Now I'm worried that sounds like a feeble move, like I have no sense of self.
16. Please describe your body.
I am soft around all the edges. Strong and sturdy, and with firm fat rather than the kind that feels like soft jelly. I think that I dress in a way where you can't really tell what size parts of me are (without wearing sacks) to the extent that if I got naked in front of my friends, they might be surprised by all the lumpy parts and disproportionate bits. My bum defies logic. The cheeks are two soft squares that bubble out unevenly across the surface. The fronts of my thighs pop out, like they have their own little bellies. Although I have been significantly slimmer, I cannot imagine what I would look like thin.
17. Please describe your mind.
Impressionable, determined derailed by directionlessness.
18. Please describe your emotions.
19. What are you wearing on your body and face, and how is your hair done, right at this moment?
I am wearing new black socks. Fairly new, very tight black jeans that - annoyingly - kick out a bit at the ankles. I am slightly embarrassed of the shop I bought these from (because its reputation is hoity toity, which I hope I am not) but they are really comfy. And no-one can tell from the outside. Surprisingly, non-M&S underwear - big grey and red-striped pants from Gap. A semi-sheer black shirt with a hidden placket and elbow-length sleeves, buttoned all the way to the neck. A non-wired bra from Cos with thick orange straps, red mesh panels and navy blue cotton body. Dark purple Topshop lipstick and Maybelline Rocket-something-or-other volume mascara. My hair is loose and wavy. I usually don't blow-dry it but did a little bit this morning because it was cold outside.
20. In what way is this stuff important, if at all?
What I wear has a huge impact on the way I see myself. I'm slightly ashamed to say that if I'm feeling shitty, I may sometimes fixate on a new item of clothing as an immediate 'cure' for that feeling of dissatisfaction.
21. With whom do you talk about clothes?
My boyfriend, my friend Laura, my oldest friend Oona.
22. How do institutions affect the way you dress?
Institutions? On my first day in my current job I was mistaken for the work experience, which I quite enjoyed. I like getting in the lift at work and for nobody to be able to tell which floor I'm getting off at. I recently had to go to mortgage meetings and enjoyed dressing like a sloppy teenager, both to ~defy expectation~ and also negate some of the ~adultness~ of the situation for my own benefit
23. Do you think you have taste or style? Which one is more important? What do these words mean to you?
I think I have taste, not style. I wouldn't necessarily value one over the other; I think taste is the eye and style is the execution. I know exactly what I like in other people and if I were adept at photography I could create some kind of street fashion blog that had a recognisable aesthetic. But I'm no good at applying these ideas to myself. That's what I think style is.
24. Do you remember the biggest waste of money you ever made on an item of clothing?
I bought a dress for £120 that I only wore a few times. I bought it when I was at my fattest, quickly lost the excess weight and didn't really wear it again.
25. Are there any dressing tricks you’ve invented or learned that make you feel like you’re getting away with something?
I stole this from Victoria Beckham, but I think she said about how wearing a dress seems fancy, but is actually the simplest thing you can do because you don't have to think about matching. Also I figured out early on that the less you bother doing to yourself, the more people will notice a tiny change or improvement.
26. Do you have style in any areas of your life aside from fashion?
Writing, on a good day.
27. Can you recall some times when you have dressed a particular way to calm yourself or gain a sense of control over a situation that scared you?
As above: I was very before I went to interview my favourite band and an older friend told me to dress like them. I do that all the time now, mimicking the situations I'm about to get into.
28. Would you say you “know what you like” in the area of fashion and clothing? If so, do you also know what you like in other areas of life, that is, are you generally good at discernment? Can you say where your discernment comes from, if you have it? Or if you don’t have it, why or why not?
I think I'm very discerning. My work is rooted in arts criticism. I've never really thought about why until now, but - regarding music - I suppose one reason might be that when I was very little, I liked the music my dad did. Then I started getting into more kid-oriented pop in the mid-90s that he didn't like - I was always allowed to like what I wanted, but I'd be watching Top of the Pops and he'd want to tease me about who was miming, which older songs their singles were all ripping off, and so on. I guess that makes you learn to defend the things you like, try and figure out why you like them, helps you develop your sense of self, and so on.
29. Did your parents teach you things about clothing, care for your clothing, dressing or style? What lessons do you remember? Or did you just pick things up?
I remember being told that kids shouldn't wear all black, or that at least Grandma would not like it. I was/am tubby so I remember being told about what wouldn't "suit" my shape. I remember asking for a 3/4-length top, meaning one with 3/4 length sleeves, but because I didn't articulate myself properly my mum had to gently tell me that she didn't think it would suit me. I guess I learned a lot about suitability. And while I no longer buy things three sizes so big so it lasts, I do think about longevity with clothes - I rarely buy anything with an ephemeral life. Although I follow fashion to a degree, I'm not hugely swayed by trends. That sounds like I'm being all "I don't have a TV", but I think it's more that I can tell when something isn't for me. That I wouldn't be convincing in it.
30. What sorts of things do you do, clothing or make-up or hair- wise, to feel sexy or alluring?
I like strong lipstick. If I'm gonna do make-up, I like it to be striking rather than "nude". I don't really "do" myself that much on a day-to-day basis, so if I'm trying to feel fancy I'll brush and dry my hair properly, maybe put on some foundation and so on.
31. Many people say they want to feel “comfortable,” or that they admire people who seem “confident.” What do these words really mean to you?
I think they're intertwined and more emotional than physical. Unless you're dressing for weird events all the time, the chances of you wearing something that causes you genuine discomfort are unlikely - I don't think people are talking about wearing elasticated jogging bottoms when they say 'comfortable'. I guess it's about aligning the person you want to resemble - I think everyone but the most extraordinary unicorn has another person they look to as an ideal - with the way you feel inside and the way you want people to respond to you. And if you get all those things right - which I think maybe I do about once a week - then I think you hit a sweet spot of confidence.
32. If dressing were the only thing you did, and you were considered an expert and asked to explain your style philosophy, what would you say?
Would a man wear it if men wearing women's clothes was more socially acceptable? Go for it. Would you be able to wear this item of clothing and blend in at any point between now and 50 years ago? Put it on your body! Find clothes that make you feel like the person you want to be - and probably are! - but don't feel as if that's just a single image/personality.
33. What is really beautiful, for you, in general?
Strong features, strong looks, simplicity.
34. What do you consider very ugly?
Too many accoutrements, very fleeting fashion, discomfort.
35. Are you generally a good judge of whether what you buy will end up being worn? Have you figured out how to know in advance?
I think 80% of the time I know that I'll wear something. I do most of my clothes shopping online and there's usually a gap between when I first saw something and when I decide to buy it - if I'm still thinking about it in the interim, that's when I know I should get it.
36. When you look at yourself before going out, and you are trying to see yourself from the outside, can you describe a bit about what this “other person” is like? What do they like, dislike, what sorts of judgments do they have? Is this “outer eye” based on someone you know or once knew?
I don't really know why but I like to dress in a way that avoids most obvious associations, though I don't go out of my way to be a contrarian dresser. Apart from when I'm carrying a band or festival tote bag or occasionally wearing a band shirt, you might not know what music I listen to. I guess you could tell I was into faintly alternative stuff and might be quite serious, but hopefully not too much more would be obvious. I guess being a bit fat might make people think I was a laid back person, but that's the opposite of the truth.
37. What is your process getting dressed in the morning? What are you considering?
What do I have to do today? Am I seeing anyone after work? How much ass do I have to kick today? How much can I be bothered? Then the process: some days I wake up with a really clear idea of what I want to wear, other days I'll change five times before work.
38. What are you trying to achieve when you dress?
Looking like myself.
39. What, for you, is the difference between dressing and dressing up?
Dressing up looks too conspicuous for daytime. Like someone might say, "where are you off to wearing that?"
40. If you had to wear a “uniform” what would it look like?
I do wear a uniform. Black jeans, shirts, Vans lace-ups, black coat.
41. What would you say is “you” and what would you say is “not you”?
YOU: plain things built to last.
NOT YOU: frills.
42. What is your cultural background and how has that influenced how you dress?
I'm from a very small town in the most remote part of the UK. Fashion there is heavily rooted in surf culture, which I was into in a big way as a teenager. The atmosphere is also extremely laid back (non-related: also extremely white), so there's a certain easygoingness when it comes to dressing. No-one's really that arsed about what you look like. Though there is still a reasonable going out/dressing up culture, though the style is very different to, say, the north of England, where I've also lived.
43. Do you remember a time in your life when you dressed quite differently from how you do now? Can you describe it and what it was all about for you?
Somewhere up above I said that I don't dress like a contrarian to try and stop people figuring out what kind of person I am. But when I was in my young - mid teens, I definitely did: odd Converse, knee-high rainbow toe socks, this bizarre grey zip-up skirt in industrial fabric that I loved, I'd wear a pink tutu over heavy brown corduroy trousers, a gross striped blazer of my dad's over a shirt for a football team that I didn't even like. It wasn't so much about wanting to be different as not wanting to be conventional, or have to reign in my tastes to fit some preordained idea of what did or did not look good, or what was or was not "right". Just letting my freak flag fly, that kind of thing. I definitely got some of it from my auntie, who's 10 years older than me and used to tell people she invented wearing skirts over trousers.
44. What sorts of things do you do, clothing, make-up or hair-wise, to feel professional?
Fortunately I work in an office where you could go to work in jogging bottoms and a t-shirt and no-one would give a shit. There's not too much delineation between my work and personal self, fashion-wise, also because I do a job that's essentially a professionalised version of my favourite hobby.
45. How do you conform to or rebel against the dress expectations at your workplace?
If I go to work dressed really formal for whatever reason - not like business casual, but just... severe-looking - then that's more rebellious than going in wearing a band t-shirt and stained jeans. I do both, there's no rhyme or reason to either.
46. Do you have a dress code, a school uniform, or a uniform that you wear for an extracurricular activity?
47. Are there ways in which you conform to or rebel against these uniforms?
48. Do you find it comforting or constraining to have a uniform?
I find it very helpful to have a personal uniform. I don't like the act of going shopping - it stresses me out, I hate seeing my body in the changing room lights, also those lights are the perfect brightness to see all your blackheads in sharp relief, so I inevitably start squeezing and have to slink sheepishly past the attendant when I leave - so to have a uniform means that I can disregard entire shops, entire portions of shops that I like, and narrow the focus. Which is helpful to me. I do like browsing and figuring out future uniforms, but in a narrower field.
49. What is an archetypal outfit for you; one that you could have happily worn at any point in your life? What do you like about it?
Jeans, t-shirt or shirt, cardigan, some form of skate shoes. It's so easy. And minor modifications take it from slobby to reasonably chic.
50. Do you ever wish you were a man or could dress like a man or had a man’s body? Was there ever a time in the past?
I wore a lot of men's clothes as a teenager. I remember trying on the aforementioned brown corduroy trousers in this surf/skate shop: the women's changing room was full so I used the men's cubicle, it didn't really matter. But when I told my mum this in the supermarket later on, she said (it was near my birthday), "What do you want for your next birthday, a sex change?" I didn't really see the difference between the two - and it wasn't like I was as conspicuous as a man in a dress (not that I think there's anything wrong with that) - but it was a real issue for her. (I was allowed to wear men's clothes, no-one made rules about what I put on my body.) I don't wish I was a man - their clothing choices are so limited and un-fun! - but I do appreciate 'masculine' tailoring. It's gross to use those gendered words. I mean I like unfussy clothes, and you barely get frilly menswear, so I associate plainness with menswear.
51. If there was one country or culture or era that you had to live in, fashion-wise, what would it be?
Early Chanel-era France (menswear-as-womenswear), Peggy in Mad Men ca. seasons five onward, contemporary Scandinavia, mid-70s New York punk, late-70s London punk.
52. Do you consider yourself photogenic?
53. When you see yourself in photographs, what do you think?
Is my face that lumpy? I should not put my hair behind my ears.
54. Are there any figures from culture, past or present, whose style you admire or have drawn from?
Yes. Eleanor Friedberger, Annie Clark, Carrie Brownstein, Patti Smith, Carson McCullers in that author photo where she's in a pressed white shirt leaning on the crook of her elbow.
55. Have you ever had a dream that involved clothes?
56. What would be a difficult or uncomfortable look for you to try and achieve?
Achieve implies I'd want to be able to dress that way, so... I'd like to be able to wear those big woollen trousers with tapered ankles, but I think my bum is too big and I don't really have the shoes to go with them. High-waisted stuff. I'd love to pull off tight leather mini-shorts, tights and towering heels.
57. If you were totally comfortable with your body, or your body was a bit closer to what you wish it was like, what would you wear?
I think thinner women get away with artfully loose t-shirts and vests in a way that can look a little slovenly on bigger women - I say this in a wholly self-reflexive way, people should dress exactly how they want, but by people I don't mean me because I'm an arsehole - so probably that.
58. Is there anyone that you are trying to attract or repel when you dress?
Attract: badass women to be my friend. Repel: men, jerks.
59. Are there any dressing rules you’d want to convey to other women?
Only cliched, glib bullshit about not pleasing anyone else blah blah as if you can dress in a vacuum.
60. What do you think of perfume? Do you wear it?
I love it. I've been wearing it since my mid-teens (when I copied a scent my favourite singer wore) but I've developed a real appreciation for it in recent years - not that I'm a connoisseur, but I notice it on other women and I like how it makes me feel. At the moment I wear Jo Malone wood sage and sea salt, I just got it and I can't stop smelling myself. Though it makes me sad when the smell wears off.
61. What are some things you need to do to your body or clothes in order to feel presentable?
Be clean. I never used to iron shit but my boyfriend got me into it and now I can't go out looking wrinkly. I fucking hate ironing so I semi-resent this development.
62. How does makeup fit into all this for you?
I usually wear a bit of mascara to look awake.
63. Is there a certain look you feel you’re expected to like that you have absolutely no interest in? What is it? Why aren’t you interested?
64. Can you describe in a basic way what you own, clothing and jewelry-wise?
Nearly all of my jewellery is made by my friend Lee May Foster. I love her aesthetic and I like to support her work, so that's why. I'd say I have about a dozen to 18 necklaces. One pair of earrings that my boyfriend bought me, one by Lee May. A ring that my auntie made me.
Clothing: one of each of the basics, really. One pair of blue jeans, now two pairs of black but I don't wear one of them any more. Half a dozen shirts, a dozen t-shirts that I barely touch, a dozen dresses - half really fancy, half daywear.
65. What is your favorite piece of clothing or jewelry that you own?
Right now it's my new coat. It's a sleek, black, buttonless trench from Weekday that would be 100% useless in the rain. Today I went out dressed slobby, because I'm knackered, but I chucked that on top and felt pretty okay about myself.
66. Tell us about something in your closet that you keep but never wear. What is it, why don’t you wear it, and why do you keep it?
Nothing really, I'm pretty ruthless with giving away/selling things I don't wear.
67. Looking back at all your purchases over the past five to fifteen years, can you generalize about what sorts of things were the most valuable to buy?
Reasonably expensive dresses - like £100 - that work for formal occasions and daywear. They're good quality, they're all in styles that won't really date, and they're easy to wear (vis the Victoria Beckham mantra).
68. Is there an item of clothing that you once owned, but no longer own, and still think about or wish you had back? What was it, what happened to it, and why do you want it back?
Oh! Two things, both lost at once. One was a navy blue skirt with an intricate beige leafy pattern, brushed cotton, knee length, by Nice Day Nice Things. The other was a silvery smock in a quite stiff fabric with a sort of polka dot pattern in relief, by Jigsaw. I had long-term borrowed the latter from a friend, who got it in a charity shop. An airline once permanently lost my suitcase and both of those things were in there.
69. If you had to throw out all your clothes but keep one thing, what would you keep?
The black coat.
70. Building up your wardrobe from nothing, what would you do differently this time?
I would think in terms of outfits rather than individual pieces. It doesn't happen as much now because I'm conscious of it, but I used to buy something I loved then get home and realise I had nothing that went with it.
71. What’s the first “investment” item you bought? Do you still own or wear it?
I can't remember.
72. Was there ever an important or paradigm-shifting purchase in your life?
Not in terms of clothes, no.
73. What item of clothing are you still (or have you forever been) on the hunt for?
The perfect black sleeved dress.
74. What are your closet and drawers like? Do you keep things neat, etc?
I just moved and inherited a built-in wardrobe. I bought wire drawers to make the most of the lower half of the space, and have wooden drawer units in the bedroom to keep foldable items.
75. Were you ever given a present of clothing or jewelry that especially touched you?
Three things: for my 21st birthday Lee May made me a custom necklace. My boyfriend John bought me earrings for a more recent birthday, which I had pointed out in a shop some time beforehand. Apropos of nothing - and while he was still alive - my Grandma gave me the locket my Grandad gave her when my dad was born, which has a lock of his ginger baby hair inside.
76. Did you ever buy an article of clothing without giving it much thought, only to have it prove much more valuable as time went on? What was the item and what happened?
No. The opposite in fact! I once bought a dress made from organic Liberty fabric in a sample sale, it was £15 reduced from £140. I did wear it for several years, but it's not my style any more. I tried to sell it thinking I'd get £50 or so, but I couldn't even get £12! I still have it, I don't feel jibbed as I got a fair bit of wear out of it.
77. How and when do you shop for clothes?
About once every two - three months (so with the changing of the seasons, really) I look in my wardrobe and think, urgh, I hate all these things, and I buy a few items - often online - to pep up my wardrobe.
78. Do you like to smell a certain way?
Yes. I want to be one of those ladies who smells really nice.
79. How does how you dress play into your ambitions for yourself?
It doesn't really.
80. How does money fit into all this?
I buy fancy clothes in the sale rather than lots of cheap clothes.
81. Is there an article of clothing, a piece of make-up, or an accessory that you carry with you or wear every day?
Six days out of seven I wear mascara. Right now I wear my black coat every day. I don't wear any permanent jewellery, but you have just reminded me that I haven't found the ring my auntie made me since I loved.
82. Did anyone ever say anything to you that made you see yourself differently, on a physical and especially sartorial level?
My boyfriend pointed out how I hid myself in clothing.
83. Do you remember the first time you were conscious of what you were wearing? Can you describe this moment and what it was about?
One of my earliest clothing memories concerns being made to wear those horrible early 90s leggings with stirrups under the feet. I think I had a meltdown in C&A because I hated them so much.
What’s your birth date? Where were you born and where do you live now?
February 5 1989, just outside London.
Say anything you like about your cultural/ethnic/economic background.
I was taught the value of money and started earning my own as soon as I could to ensure my independence.
What kind of work do you do?
I'm an editor at a music magazine.
Are you single, married, do you have kids, etc.?
In a long-term relationship, no kids.
Please say anything you like about yourself that might put this survey into some sort of context.
I'm still figuring a lot of things out but I don't know if I'll ever be comfortable with myself.
How do you feel after filling out this survey?
It was long but I kept doing it because it made me give form to ideas that I'd never really had to articulate before.