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28. Would you say you “know what you like” in the area of fashion and clothing? If so, do you also know what you like in other areas of life, that is, are you generally good at discernment? Can you say where your discernment comes from, if you have it? Or if you don’t have it, why or why not?
I know what I like. I think it comes from my mom. She didn’t know how to read or to speak English really well and so she would rely on other ways of reading, like reading people, how they dressed, the tone of their voice, how they smelled, their smile. I can read the way she does too. People don’t tell you who they really are. You have to figure that out. I write like the way I read. I pay attention to words and think about them, what they do, what they can’t do, what they don’t do. In the area of friendship, I stopped being friends with someone and a number of years later other friends stopped being friends with this same person. I did this much sooner than the others. The others, over the years, had accepted bad behaviour that cost them. When they got out, they always wanted to talk to me about their time there and how I knew when to leave. I did, for a while, but I was tired of explaining how or why. Sometimes you just know.
Yes, I have confidence.
I feel like I generally know what I like, but I listen to other people's opinions about music. Especially my father's since he is a musician and a genius.
I wouldn't in my wildest dreams say that I am 'generally good at discernment'. I feel the opposite most times. Like I am flailing my way through life without any concept of what will or will not be good for me. I can be extremely discerning and stubborn about certain things and extremely undiscerning in other ways.
I would say that fashion and clothing is one area that I am extremely discerning in. I tend to know what clothing I like and what I don't like and it's difficult to make me change my mind. Which is a rarity, for me.
Life's constant evolution makes it difficult to know what I like, but I am getting better at being confident in my likes and dislikes. I think of myself as a very discerning individual, except when it comes to relationships. If I am discerning, it likely came from my father's strong opinions and willingness to express them, and from my mother's frugality and practicality. I was taught to evaluate carefully and think critically.
I know precisely what I like. I am definite. I am emphatic.
You know who taught me that? Harriet the Spy. I read it when I was a kid. I am Harriet.
For the most part, I know what I like with regard to what I wear, although I will take the opportunity to step out of my comfort zone, and some of the things I really like are not necessarily the most flattering to me. I am pretty discerning in all areas of my life, which comes out of years of experimentation and keen interest in art and design.
i like this dude-like style. and i have adopted it unfortunately in my life. i believe that it comes from the fact that i dont really think i am that barbie-girl, i dont have the body or the mind. i just dont want to be tought as a girl, my behavior, my style, my talk doesnt match with it. also as a feminist -though it sounds bad its not that bad- i believe in womans's freedom of anything that makes her a toy (dressing up as a slut does it).
I do now - because I've tried lots of things that didn't work