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7. What is the most transformative conversation you have ever had on the subject of fashion or style?

Did not have one

when friends and family started telling me "where do you find these pieces? you certainly have an eye"

I don't remember. Maybe just with my mum as she said I somehow changed from dark colors to colors and now it seems right for me. But that was just something she noticed.

I cannot remember a single transformative, or even interesting conversation I've had on the subject of fashion or style. I don't have a lot of people in my life who seem to share my interest in fashion. I recently confessed to one of my closest friends that I thought it would be fun as a career aspiration to write about style and she asked me why with an almost dismissive tone to her voice. I found it hard to articulate out loud in that moment why style interests me. I always tell people I'm "secretly" interested in fashion, but it's not so much that I keep my interest a secret. It's more that my thoughts about style and how it relates to feminism and identity are a kind of personal, private mission that I've developed through a kind of study rather than through conversations in real life.

You know, I think the documentary I watched called "Secret Haute Couture" and a book on Nanny's coffee table about the history of art got me thinking of Fashion Design as an artistic medium.

I don´t use to talk about fashion. When I was younger, I decided to wear dirty old clothes to protest against my familiy´s attempts of making me look normal according to their standards. I always look at clothes as statement.

The most transformative conversation I ever had about style was with my uncle. We were talking about fashion among the years and how trends change but always come back.

My girlfriend Peggy is a real shopper and very interested in clothes. While we do not share the same level of interest, she opened my eyes to more possibilities for my wardrobe, like wearing white pants in the summer!

When a friend told me when i was about 21 that I'm actually very particular about what I wear.

My friend has told me that I should not wear long skirts because they don't suit me (I'm tall and quite chubby)

I had a conversation with my boyfriend about it, when we were in university. He talked about matching colours and also making contrasts. I felt that was quite enlightening.

Presenting yourself properly is not the same with being flirty. Because I'm afraid to look flirty, I don't apply too much make up before, actually I don't really apply it. But when I read a book about being yourself, I feel so motivated to do and experiment some fashionable styles on. I even attended training for my transformation!

With my best friend, on tomboy femme-ness, classic looks, having fun with clothes.


Don't go with the trend because then you have to buy so many clothes and I don't have enough money to do that. Just focus on some good jeans, a coat and some shirts.

I haven't ever had a transformative conversation. Any time I've asked a girl about her style, her response is brief... my mom has no care for maintenance of appearance whatsoever.

a friend defended use of make-up as "fun" and I had to agree she had a really good point. Other friends abandon ship at a certain age and I now think they are missing out on fun. Fun, the joy of self expression, is a solid reason to spend.

I can't think of a specific conversation but two transformative pieces of writing stayed with me; one was an article I read in a newspaper years ago about a beautifully-dressed older woman who turned out to be completely blind. She said she made the effort in order to show respect for and give pleasure to other people. The second was Linda Grant's 'The Thoughtful Dresser', which contained the story of a woman who attributed her (and some of her friends') survival of a German concentration camp to regular tiny gestures of self-beautification. These kept their morale up and stopped them from succumbing to despair. I've heard that dressing well and wearing makeup can make a great difference to the morale of terminally ill people, too.

What clothes suit my body figure best

again, when I was a teenager, some "friends" told me that I looked like a whore... they were just jealous, they were wearing the same shirts and tshirts...

To be honest, the most transformative 'conversation' I have ever had on the subject of fashion or style was reading Women in Clothes. I have always been interested in clothing and fashion, but I have felt a lot of shame over the years for having such a preoccupation with it and have rarely brought it up with others. But when I read this book, I felt liberated. I felt like my interest wasn't overly-materialistic or frivolous. It was simply my own process of dealing with something that everyone has to deal with every day. The book allowed me to pursue my own idiosyncratic interest in this area while giving others the freedom to pursue it in their own ways and to celebrate the vast difference. I felt like I had had a conversation with six hundred women, and we all came away a bit more self-aware and generous toward each other. I don't think transformative is too strong a word for that.

Helping people figure out what clothing style suits them best.

With my daughter, who explained that you can't put on another person's clothes. What you choose is very uniquely you, even though you feel (I feel) that I am just a number in a mall. 2nd was with my mother, who I suddenly noticed took a lot of care with her clothes and skin care. Why did I not know she loved expensive shoes?

I'm struggling with this one. I've had pleasant conversations that I enjoy but I don't think I've found them transformative. I love talking about shoes. I love looking at shoes, admiring other people's shoes, gazing at shoes on the Internet. My own collection is not that extensive; as a former dancer, I really prefer comfy shoes myself. I've also been enjoying conversations with my twelve year old daughter lately about makeup. I think I used makeup when I was younger to cover up perceived inadequacies. She uses it artistically to express herself. I guess my conversations with her are the most transformative, because I'm seeing makeup as something deeply pleasurable and creative, which I hadn't seen before.

In my early 40's We moved our business to a small community and my clothes were new again. I embraced my unique style and made great use of finding second-hand gems that complemented everything. I can't remember any particular transformative conversation but I do feel, in my own little way, I did bring a unique freedom (in the way I dressed to that small town).

Someone told me I could wear any look I wanted when I had said I couldn't t wear a certain style.

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